Adjust Everywhere

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Adjust Everywhere
with the other person, because things are not in your control. I know who has control over this. So, do you have any problems with adjusting here?
Questioner: No, not at all.
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Dadashri (To the wife) do you have any problems with that?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: So then, why don't you settle the matter? Adjust everywhere. Do you see a problem there?
Questioner: None at all.
Dadashri: If he tells you first to make him a nice meal of onion fritters, laddus (sweet), vegetables etc., you should adjust accordingly. If you tell him you are tired and want to sleep early tonight, then he must adjust and sleep early, even if it means postponing a visit to see a friend. You will be able to deal with your friend later but do not let the dispute start between the two of you. In order to maintain good relations with your friend, you will create problems at home. It should not be like that. Therefore, if she speaks first, you must adjust.
Questioner: Suppose he has an urgent meeting to attend at eight o'clock and she insists on going to sleep? What should he do?
Dadashri: You must not make suppositions. The law of nature is such that, 'Where there is a will, there is a way." If you start speculating this way, it will spoil things. The other day she herself was encouraging you to go. She even walked to the car with you. Everything gets ruined because of such
Adjust Everywhere
imaginations. That is why someone has said in a book "Where there is a will, there is a way." Do you understand? Will you follow this instruction of adjusting?
Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: Well then give me a promise.
Questioner: Yes Dada, I promise.
Dadashri: Great! Great! This is called courage.
ADJUSTMENT DURING MEALTIMES
Ideal daily life interaction means to adjust everywhere. This precious time is for your spiritual development. Do not create differences. I give you these words : 'Adjust Everywhere!' Adjust! Adjust! Adjust! If the kadhi (hot soup made from buttermilk) is too salty, you should remember what Dada has said about adjusting. Eat a little of it. You can even ask for some pickle if you want, but do not quarrel. There should be no conflicts in the home. Adjustments will bring harmony during difficult situations in life.
IF YOU DISLIKE IT, ACCEPT IT ANYWAY
Adjust with the very person who misadjusts with you. If there are maladjustments in the daily life between a woman and her daughter-in-law or vice versa, the one who wants to escape from the vicious cycle of worldly life should adjust. Even between husband and wife, when one keeps ripping things up, the other must mend. This is the only way a relationship can be sustained with peace.
People will consider you crazy if you do not know how