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Adjust Everywhere
Adjust Everywhere
If the husband and wife both make a firm commitment to adjust, they will find a solution. If one is insistent, the other has to adjust by giving in.
what his wife said about him. He replied, "She says, my husband has no sense." Why are you looking for justice for yourself? He then went on to tell me that his home was ruined and his wife and children were spoilt. I told him that nothing was ruined and that he did not know how to look at the situation. I told him that he should learn to understand everyone at home and recognize his or her nature.
If you do not adjust you can become insane. Repeated harassment of others is the reason for this insanity. If you provoke a dog once, twice or even thrice, he will still heed you, but if you keep annoying him, he will bite you. Even the dog starts to think of you as a bad person. This is worth understanding. Do not provoke anyone. Adjust everywhere.
The one, who has learnt the art of adjustment, has found the path of eternal bliss. Adjustment made is Gnan. This will be one's triumph. You will have to suffer whatever suffering comes your way, but the person who has learnt to adjust will not have any problems. He will settle his previous accounts. If you encounter a robber and you "disadjust", he will beat you up. Instead you should simply adjust and get your work done by saying, "Friend what do you want? I am on a pilgrimage and do not have a lot of money." In so doing, you have adjusted to him.
You commit a blunder if you criticize your wife's cooking. You must not do that. You are talking as if you never make any mistakes. You must adjust with the person with whom you have made a commitment to spend your life. If you hurt anyone, how can you call yourself follower of the religion of Lord Mahavir? No one in the home should be hurt. This is very important.
Why is it so difficult to make adjustments? There are many people in your family including your extended family. It is difficult to get along with them all. Not all human beings have the same nature. People's nature is according to the current time cycle. In Satyug (The time of Truth), everyone lived in harmony. Even if a hundred people lived under one roof, all of them would respect and obey the head of the household. In this Kaliyug (Age of despair), they do not listen; they challenge his authority, antagonize, and even abuse him.
Everyone is human but you do not know how to recognize this. There may be fifty people in the household, but because you do not recognize their nature, disputes arise. You need to recognize their differences. If one person in the house gripes all the time, then that is his nature. Once you recognize this fact, you need not do anything further. You need not analyze him any more.
A HOME IS A GARDEN
Some people are in the habit of sleeping late, and some go to bed early. How can they get along? What would happen if they all live together under one roof as a family? Someone in the home may say, "You are an idiot." At this time you should learn that this person uses such language only. This is how you adjust. If you return his insult, you will exhaust yourself and the conflict will continue. That person has
A man came to me saying, "Dada, my wife is not behaving well. She is difficult to get along with." I asked him
