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Adjust Everywhere
Adjust Everywhere
everywhere. When you quarrel with your wife, are you able to sleep at night? Moreover, in the morning do you get a decent breakfast?
ADOPT THE GNANI'S TECHNIQUE
One night the wife pleads with her husband to buy her a saree. He asks her how much it is and she tells him that it costs only 2200 rupees. Her husband tells her that if it cost 200 or 300 rupees, he would gladly buy it for her, but how could they afford such an expensive saree? The wife gets upset and begins to sulk. What kind of a problem has been created? He even begins to regret getting married. What use is regret after the fact? This is suffering.
not have this approach.
Questioner : Yes, it is correct.
Dadashri : Did you understand this? The fault is all yours. You must learn this art. IGNORANCE : THE ROOT CAUSE OF CONFLICT
Questioner : What causes conflicts? Is it incompatibility?
Dadashri : Conflicts arise because of ignorance; ignorance of the nature of the real Self and of the world. In this world the natural characteristics of every individual are different. Once you attain this knowledge of the Self, there is only one-way: Adjust everywhere. If someone hits you, you must adjust to him.
Questioner : Are you saying that the husband should buy her the 2200-rupee saree?
Dadashri : It all depends upon him whether to buy it or not. Her disgruntled attitude will continue and every night she will threaten not to cook. From where will he get another cook? He will have to buy it even if he has to borrow the money.
I am showing you this simple and straightforward way. These conflicts do not occur everyday. They only occur when your past karmas are ready to give their results. Adjust, when this happens. If a fight occurs with your wife, make her happy afterwards by taking her out for a dinner. From now on the strain in your relationship should not linger.
Nothing in this world will adapt to us, but if we are able to fit into it, the world will be good to us. If we try to make it adapt to us, then it will be awkward. Therefore, adjust everywhere. If we fit into it, there will be no problems.
He should make the situation such that she herself would not want to buy the saree. If his was earning 800 rupees a month, he should keep 100 rupees for himself and give her the rest. Would she be likely to buy herself a saree then? He could then even afford to tease her about buying a saree. Then the decision to buy the saree would be hers. If the decision rested on him, she would continue to pressure him. I learnt this art before I attained Gnan. It was much later that I became a Gnani. I acquired Gnan after I discovered ways of dealing with difficult situations. You have problems because you do
DADA ADJUSTS EVERYWHERE
One day the kadhi was good except it was salty. I thought to myself, "There is definitely too much salt, but I can sip it in small amounts'. As soon as Hiraba (Dada's wife) went inside,
