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which is that petrol which stimulates the fire of anger? To summarize, what is it that acts as water for the fire of anger and what is it that acts as petrol?
Audience: “Forgiveness, equanimity is the water”.
Speaker: “No, this is only the outcome. Pacification of anger itself is forgiveness or even-mindedness. But, which water, when sprinkled, eases the agitation of anger? Acceptance of one's mistakes acts as water for the fire of anger, whereas, blaming someone for the mistakes acts as petrol.”
All the leaders from different fields had called a meeting to which even you were invited. You had decided to wear your brand-new white clothes. Since you were running late and you needed to hurry, you asked the servant, “Put my handkerchief, wallet and pen in the pocket of my trouser.” He did what he was told. As you were about to leave, you noticed a blue ink mark near the pocket. The servant had put the pen inside the pocket but had forgotten to put the cap on properly. On seeing the blot, you lost your temper. A tight slap landed on the cheek of the servant, “You idiot! Why did you not close the cap properly?” Another time, on a similar occasion, it was you who had put the pen in the pocket but had forgotten to close the cap tightly. In no time, a stain had shown up. You noticed it, but would you lose your temper like before? Would you also slap yourself with the same force? Why not? Is it because you are not angry with yourself? Why not? It is because you have realized your mistake.
Let's say, you were on a month long trip. Your partner struck a deal, due to which a loss was incurred. On your
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