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This matter needs to be understood. The eyes do not have to adjust to the pain of spectacles. It is the other way around because (1) the eyes already existed, spectacles came later, (2) one does not choose the eyes but one chooses the pair of spectacles. Similarly, (1) your mother has been around right from your birth, the wife enters your life at a later stage, (2) you cannot choose your mother, but you can choose your wife. Therefore, the chosen wife has to conform to your mother. This means that, it is the wife who has to change so as to fit in and not the mother.
The wife was calm because she did not see the mother's faults and had learnt the golden motto of life, 'In any situation, learn to adapt.' The husband became uneasy and restless and therefore talked of separating, because he saw the mother's fault in everything. He himself failed to learn to adjust. The learned say, "GEHIDU 2621 gou Pondeln foragişachet”. “When an act is performed with a specific feeling, then that act becomes instrumental in intensifying that feeling.”
Time and again, the mother had shown inequality between the two sons, resulting in the elder son developing a dislike and disrespect for his mother in his heart. So when he again broached the topic of separating, the mother welcomed it. Despite the elder daughter-in-law's displeasure and disagreement, the house was partitioned. The mother started living with her younger son and his wife.
On the very first day, the younger daughter-in-law went in for a nap without cleaning the utensils. The mother told her, “First clean the utensils, then go to sleep later.”
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