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see one's own fault, does not even find this surprising. The reason is very clear. He perceives someone's appropriate behaviour towards him as an act of kindness and develops an affection and affinity for the person whereas he sees someone's unfavourable behaviour only as a fruit of his demeritorious karmas. Hence, he does not feel an iota of enmity towards that person. He considers everyone as his friend and no one as his enemy. Then how can the feelings of anxiety, fear or worry come anywhere near him? The imagination that, “Everyone around me is my friend and no one is my enemy,” is so delightful! The persons who see animosity in others’ strange behaviour themselves face harassment. Those who are able to see their faults stay calm and composed.
This incident took place in Agra, a few years ago. A widow worked hard to educate both her sons. Both got good jobs in banks and earned a good salary. Sustaining life was no problem. The widow had only one desire left and that was to get both her sons married to daughters of rich businessmen so that they would get a good dowry and their days would pass happily. Both the boys were virtuous, respectful, set in their jobs and straightforward so it was not impossible to have her desire fulfilled. The mother arranged her elder son's engagement with a girl from a well-to-do family. It was decided that the new daughter-in-law would bring a dowry of a determined amount with her.
The mother had lived a very hard life and had not seen even quarter of that amount at one time before. So for her, the thought that the daughter-in-law would bring
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