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THE WAY OF LIFE
in a state of emotional equanimity and spiritual tranquillity reach the heavenly world. Now-a-days such jivas do not return to this world. If gods desire to come here they can. Did not Yugabahu come to this world from heaven ? Now, he had no worry or agitation of any kind.
LET SPIRITUAL AMITY ARISE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
In this life, if you want to have any relationships, you have such a relationship. A wife should not be a mere wife to her husband. She must be his spiritual benefactress. A husband should not be merely a husband to his wife. He must be her spiritual benefactor also. You should not think merely of the joys and sorrows of this life; you must also think of the other world also. The wife should think thus : “My husband's life in the other world should not be marred. I will extend to him that kind of assistance which would fill his heart with dharma." In the same manner, even the husband, must think of the welfare of his wife, in the other world. This is the highest kind of amity or relationship. This kind of relationship will continue unbroken for many lives. Such a relationship can continue upto the time of the attainment of salvation.
The amity or the relationship limited to the pleasures of the five senses is not a real relationship. "You give me happiness; and I shall give you happiness." This kind of attitude is not the characteristic of a real relationship. It is merely a transaction and a commercial exchange. "If you do not give me happiness, I too will not give you happiness.” This is not the attitude that should form the basis of any real relationship. Amity implies the attitude of giving happiness even to those who cause unhappiness to us. Amity means loving all beings as oneself. There is the attachment of friendship in amity. There can be no amity without the feeling of friendship. The cataract of benevolence for all beings must always be flowing from your heart.
The amity of Yugabahu for Madanrekha was born out of his gratitude for the benefactions he had received from her. It is amity for a benefactress. "I will repay the benefactions I have
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