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consequences are alarming there, increasing teenage pregnancies, sex related crimes and even murders and divorces so much so that politicians and sociologists are worried and seriously thinking to revive old time tested morals. I believe that once a boy or girl is addicted to having relations with a number of people of the opposite sex it gets etched in the psyche and it persists even after marriage. Extramarital relations are the main cause of divorces and sex related crimes."
mind if you are committed to him. Please tell me the truth so that I can go from here peacefully."
Deepti, "It appears that you are suspicious as generally all males are. I reiterate with all earnestness my request to you that you should kindly wait for a year for my sake. I have every hope that you will heed my request because you love me. Your query about the boy friend if I have any shows that you have forgotten Indian culture and under the influence of western environment you are getting westernised physically as well as mentally. The culture of having a boy or a girl friend is against our ethos. I am surprised that your exposure for four, five years only have erased from your psyche the impressions of our culture and traditions in which you have been brought up for over twenty or so years. For your information I do not even think about a boy friend. According to you our association when you were coaching me, our going to see movies, to restaurants, could be termed as that of a boy friend and of a girl friend. This type of friendship I have with many of my co- students and colleagues but of the type you are thinking about I have none. Anyway, tell me about you. In the culture you are living in for the past few years, not having a girl or a boy friend is considered a serious deficiency. Please tell me how many girls have you been in such relationships. During alumni meetings in our IIT, Bombay, I have heard the old boys narrating their strange experiences in US, UK and other countries. There even physical intimacy is not considered wrong and sex is considered just a requirement of body and its satisfaction. There the traditional mindset of girls has also changed and they think that if boys can experiment with a variety of girls, they too should have the same right. The respect for purity and virginity is not there. I was told that the
Ajeet, "What old alumni boys and girls have told you is correct. The life there is very much sex oriented and the harmful dangerous consequences are there for all to see. But for your information I have not lost my roots in Indian culture. I subscribe to it and believe in it as strongly as you do. My query was simple and is common now a day. The boy and girl must know about each other when they are entering a permanent life long relationship. I assure you that I do not have any girl friend so far (he felt a pinch in his heart because he was lying).
You have also put me in a very difficult situation. You shall also help me. We shall talk to our parents jointly. Your parents, particularly your father will be able to prevail upon my father because they are long time friends."
Deepti was clever and articulate and was able to manipulate the situation the way she wanted. It is said that it is not possible for men to fathom the secrets of women's heart. The queen Pingala is a glaring historical example. She could fool such a wise king as Bharatari. She could manage two ardent lovers simultaneously, could continue to get unflinching affection of Bharatari while flirting with her trainer in horse riding.
