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predetermined way whose head will be broken?
Questioner : Mine.
Dadashri : Therefore who has to be careful? Whose fault is it? The fault is of the one who gets hurt. This world is just like a wall.
Suppose you end up colliding with a door or a wall, would you experience a difference of opinion with the door or the wall?
Questioner: The door is not a living thing.
Dadashri : So you mean to say that just because there is life in something, it is responsible for clashing with you. Everything in the world that you encounter conflict with is non-living. Things that clash with you are non-living. The living can never clash. Therefore, you must immediately remember the example of the wall and not interfere further. So in such events, take a break and then ask for some tea and snacks.
Suppose a child throws a rock at you and you bleed from the cut you sustain, how would you react towards that child? You would be furious with him even though he regrets his action. What if you were hurt by falling rock? You would not be angry in this situation because it was not thrown at you by anyone. Who is responsible for the rock that fell on you from atop a hill?
You must learn to understand this world. If you come to me I will make you worry free. You can live happily with your wife and enjoy worldly life. You will even enjoy getting your children married. Your wife also will be delighted. She will come to me saying, "I must admit, you have made my
husband so wise."
Supposing your wife had a quarrel with a neighbour and she is so enraged that she begins to yell at you as you enter your home. What should you do? Should you get angry too? When such events occur, you should adjust and carry on. You do not know who or what made her so furious. You are a man so you should not allow a dispute to ensue. If she begins to argue with you, just calm her down. Differences of opinion means conflict.
SCIENCE WORTH UNDERSTANDING
Questioner: I want to avoid conflicts, but what am I to do when someone deliberately comes and quarrels with me?
Dadashri : If you fight with this wall, how long can you keep fighting? If you hurt your head from walking into the wall, do you start yelling and punching at it? In the same token, consider your antagonist a wall. Is there a need to lay blame on him? We ourselves have to understand that the other person is like a wall. By doing this, you will avoid all problems.
Questioner : If we stay quiet, they become more irritated and annoyed with us in the process, and even assume that the fault is ours.
Dadashri : Do you think your silence has anything to do with it? If you get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, and in the dark you bump into a wall, does it happen because you stayed quiet?
Whether you speak up or remain silent has no bearing on it. There is no such thing as affecting a person by your silence or even by your speech. No one has the independent
