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faults each day, know that you are getting closer to moksha (final liberation).
Therefore, wherever you are, avoid clashes. In causing conflicts you are spoiling this life and you are ruining your next life too. One who ruins this life is definitely ruining the one to come! If this life improves, so will the next life! If we do not encounter problems in this life, then we should know that the next life would be problem free too! If you create problems here they will follow you into the next life.
THE GUARANTEE OF THREE MORE LIVES
For those who do not clash with anybody, I guarantee they will attain moksha in three life times. If you clash, you must do pratikraman. Clash is the nature of pudgal. Pratikraman ends all clash between pudgals..
If the other person multiplies, then we should divide, so that no balance remains. To think negative about another person is the biggest mistake. If we hit a wall along the way, why don't we get annoyed with it? If a cow steps on your toes do you say anything to it? That is how it is with people. How does the Gnani Purush forgive everyone? He perceives their innocence and understands that they do not understand. They are like walls. For those who do understand, there is no need to tell them anything for they immediately do pratikramans from within.
ATTRACTION=REACTION
Questioner: Sometimes this occurs with my spouse.
Dadashri : That is not hatred. The love, which arises from attraction, is reactionary and subject to repulsion. So that if he gets irritated, she turns away from him. She maintains her distance for a little while, which in turn endears him to her again as she begins to grow fonder of him and he of her. With further conflict there is more hurt and more interference with each other resulting in further alienation. And then back together once more. Where there is excessive love of this kind there is interference. So wherever there is interference going on inside they still feel love. Such excessive love from our past life is the cause of interference. It is really excessive love that you are speaking of, otherwise would there be any interference? This is the characteristic of interference.
People say that it is conflict that makes their love grow. That is true, but that which you call love is really attraction that has arisen from conflict itself. Such attraction is always subject to repulsion. Where there are only a few clashes, there is less attraction. If in a household a husband and wife have limited quarrels, we should understand that there is limited attraction between the two. Do you understand this?
Questioner: In our daily lives, sometimes when the ego arises, we have intense arguments and lots of sparks fly in fights.
Dadashri : Those sparks are not due to the ego. They may seem to arise from ego but in fact they are related to sexual interaction. Where there is no sexual interaction, there is no clash. The history of friction ceases where sex ceases. So when a couple take the vows of celibacy for a year, I ask them what their life has been like, they reply, "No sparks, no
Questioner: Many times even if I have no desire to harbour any hate towards anyone and yet it happens. What is the reason behind this?
Dadashri : With who does this happen?
