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Anger
Anger
Dadashri : Yes. Even while seeing their faults, you should be aware that it is wrong and it is a result. Once this process of seeing faults in others ceases, anger will cease.
EGO IN THE ROOTS OF ANGER
Some people ask how they can get rid of their anger. They tell me that they try to suppress it. I ask them whether they are trying to suppress it before or after they understand it. I tell them that they will have to understand anger first, because anger and peace coexist side by side. If one fails to understand anger and tries to suppress it, he may be suppressing peace instead, so peace will die. Therefore it is not something that one can suppress. One has to understand that anger is ego. Analyze the ego that causes the anger.
If this child breaks something valuable and we get angry, what kind of ego is it? It is the kind of ego that tells us that we have incurred a loss from the breakage. Here the ego is of profit and loss. We have to think about how we will go about destroying this kind of ego. Otherwise by harboring the ego, the anger will continue. Anger and greed at their very core are really only ego.
that are unavoidable. The head of the household will scold his servant for breaking things, but he would remain silent if his son-in-law were to do the same. He remains silent with the people he considers important and he yells at the servant whom he considers inferior. This is egoism. Do people not become silent in the presence of their superiors? If Dada were to break something, not even a single thought would cross their minds, but if the servant were to break something, then what? Even if people understood with their buddhi (intellect), it would suffice! If the buddhi had been developed and molded with understanding, then there would be no arguments. Will the scolding help restore the damage? It only gives one a little satisfaction. Moreover there is bickering and mental stress in it.
In the above situation one has not only incurred a loss from the broken cups, but also a loss from inner restless has been created. Thirdly, a loss has occurred because of hostility created with the servant. The servant thinks that he is being ill treated because he is poor. He will harbor hostility and will bind revenge karma for next life. God has said that one should not bind vengeance with anyone. Where possible, bind love but do not bind hostility. If you bind love, then that love itself will destroy the hostility. Love overcomes hatred. Vengeance will breed vengeance and it will keep on increasing forever. Vengeance is the reason for the endless wanderings life after life. Why do these human beings wander endlessly?
WITH WHAT UNDERSTANDING IS ONE TO
PACIFY ANGER?
Anger itself is the ego. One must examine why this is so. Once we look into it, we will be able to grasp it. If we get angry when something breaks, we have to question why the anger occurs. The answer would be that the breakage means a loss. It is because of the loss we feel angry. If one thinks deeply about the ego and the anger, the very process of thinking will wash away the ego. There are circumstances
What obstacles arise? Where do the obstructions arise? We should destroy them. It is because of one's shortsightedness that one encounters obstructions. The Gnani Purush gives you the 'long-sight' that will enable you to see
