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parents siblings are integral parts of journy successful people are happy respected in society. If we wish to be more productive, successful cheerful charming you have to go on fighting. People with jealousy may try to supress our success. But path of ethics & morality leads to success and satisfaction which requires non-violent thoughts and behaviour.
We never view things quite the same as others, picture we create of world is never the same as what is out there we create our own view and meaning of the world by the way we maniputale at various level of brain and transformed into perception as information comes in through senses our awareness at intensity level-information may be right or wrong views can differ so anekantvada which teaches to respect opposite concept of views in one of factor of non-violence.
· Other factor is forgiveness - when you grieve you feel combination of anger sadness fear, despair and anxiety. Dwelling on painful thoughts about the loss of betrayal is another part of grief you need to move on from negative emotion and turmoil of the grief stage & start living the rest of your life at this forgiveness comes into play it is natural. Next step after you have articulated the wrong done to you and fett the pain. It wraps up the grief but does not prevent inevitable suffering. Forgiveness comes into play after experiencing emotional psychological suffering found waiting or better off. Forgiveness is not substitute for grief but it allow your grief to ebb so you can move on, and live. It is lubricant can restore health of relationship. Forgiveness is not condoning unkind actions or forgetting what happened but is reconcilliation-reestablishing relation with who has hurt you. Forgiveness is making peace with bitter past and no longer blaming your experiences. You can forgive and give another chance or forgive and move on. Choice is yours. Whether to increase enmity and pile up anger or leave in peace with love. Forgiveness not deciding that what happened to you was okay. It is not that you condone person's unkind, inconsiderate selfish behaviour, but to forgive is let to of extra suffering you have imposed on yourself after normal cycle of grief. You don't have to be doormat in order to forgive you and make it okay to treat you unkindly. Forgiveness is not forgetting because remembering allows you to ensure that something bad does not happen again. Forgive doesnot mean you give up your claim to justice or compensation forgiveness is for you & not others, like non-violent thought. It is your healing, improves your mental and physical health. Forgiveness is becoming hero rather than victim. Choice is yours whether constantly expressing displeasure & to be stressful and self-defeating to complain & rum mate about things which you can't change. Forgiveness
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