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realized that whatever has happened, it is because of your past bad karmas. The moment you find fault with your own past karmas, where is the question of hating or getting angry at other person?
3 EXPECTATION (Apeksha-): There is nothing like unhappiness in this world. But when an element of EXPECTATION gets mixed with unfulfilment, unhappiness get created. Expectation becomes the cause not only of unhappiness, but is also the cause of restlessness, disturbance. A man returned from office, tired and very hungry. He informed his wife that he was hungry and keeps food ready and hot. While the wife was preparing food, the neighbor got heart attack and she went to help the neighbor. So she could not keep food ready. The husband would not hear any explanation. In a fit of anger, he threw the plate of food that his wife managed to bring. The husband felt and expected that wife should first attend to him and more so when he had requested over phone for food. In a sporting event, many a time we see that when favourite home team is expected to win a match, but looses miserably. The spectators lose control and damages the stadium property and many get injured in stampede. Here if we constantly remind ourselves that " HOPE FOR THE BEST, BUT BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST' or " WORK FOR THE BEST, BUT BE READY FOR THE WORST'. Such attitude helps us staying cool and not losing anger.
4. IMPATIENCE (ADHAIRYA--): There is a direct relation between impatience and impulse. An impulsive man is a man in haste. He reacts instantly. He rushes in speed. There are more chances that such man loses control and meet with accident, be it physical or be it mental. A simple example to understand the consequences of impatience. One day a very experienced, honest, hard working employee reached late in the office. The boss waiting in office turned impatient as time passed. No sooner the employee entered office, the boss in wild anger, insulted and accused the employee in presence of customers and other employees. Because of the impatience, he could not think that there could be some genuine reason for his employee to get late. The employee's
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track record of punctuality, hard honest work all went for toss. The boss dismissed him. The employee was very disappointed. Before leaving the office, he handed over Rs 100000/- that he collected from a customer who for long time was not paying the company. As the amount was to be withdrawn from bank, it took time. The boss felt ashamed that he did not wait to understand the reason for his loyal employee getting late. Impulsive nature many a time harms one's self as well as others. The loss for impulsive/impatient man is such that many times subsequent apology does not work. The words uttered because of impulsive reaction, cannot be retracted.
5. Distrust/Suspicion (known as Shanka- ist): The reason for unhappiness is many a time due to suspicious imagination. A suspicious man makes many enemies because of his nature. The king of Magadh, Shrenik Raja and his wife Chellarani were returning after hearing sermons of Prabhu Mahavir. It was a night time in the cold winter month. Outside their state, on bank of river, they saw a Saint Mahatma sitting under a tree in deep meditation. Even in the coldest month, the Saint Mahatma appeared to be enjoying warmness of his self meditation. The King Shrenik and the queen Chellana went near him and paid respect by vandana to him. Thereafter reaching at Palace and retired to bed. As it was nearing midnight, the atmosphere turned severs cold. Taking a hand out of blanket, the queen Chellana started shivering. She got awoke and a thought passed in her mind that if she was feeling so cold inside palace, what must be happening to saint Mahatma at the bank of river? She just murmured." What must be happening to the Saint Maharaj?" These words fell on the ears of king Shrenik. A cloud of suspiciousness rushed in his mind. "The woman who I thought was Sati and loyal to me, is in thoughts of another man?" and the cloud of suspiciousness ran amuck. If the Empress Queen is such characterless, what character my other queens will have? In the rush of blood, he ordered to ignite and blow the palace where queens were staying. On hearing the order, the wise mantris advised him to calm down and advised that the king should seek the truth ડિસેમ્બર- ૨૦૧૮
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