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FROM IIM-AHMEDABAD TO HAPPINESS
- Unjust divorce or desertion; - Idleness, gluttony, drunkenness, unchaste company;
Lascivious songs, books, pictures, dancings, stageplays, and all other provocations to, or acts of, uncleanness either in ourselves
or others. A ‘stew' is a brothel. Since sexual fantasies are a normal part of being human, it would appear that the Church would consider adultery to be nearly universal throughout the world.
It will do a world of good to the nuptial partners if they both have the same ideal of life in common; if they share each other's beliefs and aspirations. Diversity of ideas gives rise to friction, not cooperation. Where the selection of the nuptial partner is made solely by physical charm, or some material advantage, e.g., money, success of marriage becomes a lottery in which the likelihood of drawing a 'prize' is remote.
Two elements are involved in the proper functioning of the marital relation, namely, physical necessity, and spiritual need. In most cases the former alone is recognised and as such marriage is treated as a civil contract more or less binding on the parties, according to the rules and requirements of the society to which they happen to belong. Marriage, however, means the union of souls for the uplifting the condition of the participants for their mutual, spiritual advancement. The natural demands of human nature are taken care of but there is no room for brute carnality here. If nuptial partners regulate their conduct on noble and spiritual lines, which will mean discussing and sharing between them the important problems concerning true bliss and happiness, they will find an easy solution to those problems of modern families which have hitherto proved insoluble. They will then be found leading a life together, striving not only for the material happiness but also for virtue and goodness. All their worldly concerns will be subdued with balancing forces - sex with
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