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complementary to each other. Without opposites there is no growth and awareness. When we are aware of the cycle of opposites, we don't see them as opposites. We see them as compatible for growth, allowing us to approach the world openly. In family life, there might be incidents of exchange of hot or unpleasant words and unpleasant behaviour. If family members are not trained in the art of forgetting, these incidents can be instrumental in disintegrating the family,
A person who has the ability to obliterate the memory of unpleasant behaviour can not only remain tension-free himself or herself but can also do the same for other members of the family. Unpleasant behaviour creates restlessness in one's heart and a restless heart creates mental tension. The mental tension of one individual can become instrumental in making other members of the family unhappy and tense.
Egoism is not a direct form of violence, but it definitely plays the role of a pair of scissors, which cuts the very threads of familial virtues. The truth as to why a person becomes an egoist is very difficult to investigate. Despite being aware of the transitory nature of his fortunes, he shuts his eyes to the stark reality and behaves as if attainments, of which he is proud, are permanent things. A person's egoistic attitude generates an inferiority complex in other family members, which in turn gives rise to reactionary violence.
MAMATVA AS A VICE The feeling of mamatva (affection or attachment) is not a direct form of violence, but is perhaps the greatest cause of violence. The human tendency to acquire excessive wealth and possessions is so mean, rigid and tight that it cannot spare even a little space to accommodate any noble mentality. It is manifested in practical life in the form of economic conflict. For example, a father due to his relatively more mamatva towards one or more of his children may show
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