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Spirituality in Speech
Spirituality in Speech
she bangs the cup of tea on the table, realize that she is still sulking and that she has not forgotten the incident from the previous night. That is called taanto; taanto is the link that causes one to behave or speak harshly because of certain incidents.
If someone says: "Why are you senseless people still sitting around? Get up and eat!" such a harsh tone is called doosvara (bitter tone in words). What kind of a response will that person get from the people he is addressing? They will probably tell him they have no appetite left and that they have just been fed.
Many people will serve only kichhadee, simple rice and lentils combination for a meal, but very pleasantly say, "Please come and dine." When spoken this way, even kichhadee served on its own will taste delicious and that is called soosvara (pleasant tone in words).
A man once asked me, "When will my speech become pleasant like yours?" I told him, "When all the negative words that you use, stop their forthcoming, then your speech will become pleasant." This is because each spoken word has its own inherent quality and phases.
your worldly affairs, stay positive. In nischaya, the real, there is neither the positive nor the negative.
2. Insults and obstruction through speech
Questioner : In many homes, the family members argue but their hearts and minds are pure.
Dadashri : Speech that creates conflict will have an impact on a person's heart. If one can remain superficial about it, then no harm is done. It's like this, the mind and the heart of the one who speaks may be pure but the listener may feel as though a stone has been thrown at him, and so a conflict will arise. Conflict will arise wherever bad words are used.
Words are like money. Give them as you give money, by counting each one. Do people give money without counting it first? Speech is such that when a person uses it wisely and appropriately, it encompasses the highest forms of penance (mahavrat).
We should live our life in such a way as not to scorn (tarchhod) anyone. Do you recognize what tarchhod is and how it hurts people?
Questioner: I hurt others internally in a subtle way.
Dadashri : The problem is not the subtle hurt that you caused; the problem is the harm that this does to you. This is because you will not experience one-ness with him, due to the subtle rift that arises.
Questioner: I find myself instantly doing pratikraman when I happen to scor anyone.
Dadashri : Yes, you must do pratikraman if you spurn someone. You should speak with that person in a pleasant manner in order to turn things around.
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Always speak in a positive manner because there is a Soul within the person you are talking to. When something positive happens, it is wrong to say anything negative in it. All these problems arise because one states the negative in that which is positive. And whenever you say, "No harm done,” the instant you say this, tremendous changes take place from within. So always speak positively.
Nothing negative has happened to me for so many years. I have never experienced even the slightest negativity in any circumstance. If your mind becomes positive, you become divine, which is why I tell people to get rid of their negativity through maintaining equanimity. Then only the positive will remain. In