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Spirituality in Speech
Spirituality in Speech
and the Self. So imagine how dense a covering you would create if you were to criticize any mahatmas, who are Selfrealized beings! You should blend into the satsang like sugar in milk. I know everything about everyone here and yet I would not utter even a single word about anyone. To utter even one negative word creates a dense cover over one's Gnan.
Questioner : What is the exact meaning of the word avarnavad?
Dadashri : Avarnavad means to distort and portray just the opposite picture, in the negative direction. It is to portray just the wrong and opposite impression about a person. It is not avarnavad when you say anything exactly the way it is, say it is wrong if it is wrong and right when it is right. To utter only lies about someone is avarnavad.
Avaranad means to completely destroy with words, the good reputation, name and fame of an honest man. This avaranvad is worse than ninda. It is equivalent of ninda multiplied many times over. Generally people do mind ninda. Heavy ninda is avarnavad.
Questioner : Please explain the meaning of the following sentence in one of your nine kalams.
"Dearest Dada Bhagwan! Give me the infinite inner strength, to not cause, nor to cause anyone to, nor to instigate anyone to criticize, offend or insult any being: present or not present, living or dead.' (8th of Dada's 9 Kalams)
Dadashri : If someone is speaking negatively about one of your dead relatives, you should not involve yourself in the conversation. The consequences of speaking ill of the dead are grave. If you happen to say something negative, you should repent and tell yourself that it should never happen again. People have a tendency to talk negatively even about the dead, so I am just cautioning you.
It is wrong to say negative things about Ravan (Lord Ram's adversary in the epic Ramayana) because he still exists in the universe, and when you speak negatively about him, your criticism definitely reaches him.
Such words may arise out of opinions created in the past. The power of the words in the kalam will erase your faults.
You should never utter even a single unpleasant word. All conflicts arise because of unpleasant words. The entire great war of Mahabharat took place because of Draupadi's single sarcastic remark, "The blind one of the blind." (Referring to Duryodhana the son of the blind King Dhritarashtra, who accidentally fell in the reflecting pool) There was no other significant reason for the war, this was the main reason. Draupadi made a sarcastic remark and she had to endure its consequences. Will uttering even a single untoward word not carry consequences?
Questioner: How can we get rid of the harshness in our
speech?
Dadashri : You can turn your speech whichever way you want. Until now, you have used harsh speech to scare and intimidate people.
Even when the other person speaks harshly towards you, you should speak pleasantly to him. After all, you are the one who wants liberation.
"Dada, please take seat gloriously in my vocal cords!" Ask Dada for this and your speech will improve. Even doing Dada's niddidhyasan (visual contemplation) on your vocal cords, will also improve your speech.
Questioner : What is tunteeli speech?
Dadashri : If you get into an argument with your wife during the night and the next morning when she serves you tea,