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Spirituality in Speech
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Spirituality in Speech
and you tell him, 'Leave it alone, it will be wasted unnecessarily,' then you just created an obstruction. If your friend is making a charitable donation to someone and you say, "Why are you giving him money? He is an embezzler.' This is an obstruction against charity. Whether your friend then makes the donation or not, you created an obstructive karma, which will result in you not being able to find someone to help you in your time of need.
If you tell the person working under you, 'You have no sense, then you have caused an obstruction over your own sense!
I am amazed at the tremendous damaging effect of scorn. That is why I go about so carefully that not even a common laborer feels scorned. People who are scorned will avenge themselves; even if it means they return as a snake in their next life to bite you. Any form of scorn will always avenge itself.
Questioner: How can we escape the consequences of the effects of scorn committed?
Dadashri : There is no solution other than to keep doing pratikraman. Continue to do pratikraman until the mind of the person you have scorned changes towards you. When you meet that person again, you can speak politely to him and apologize by saying, "I was very wrong and it was very careless and stupid of me, I have no sense." When you reprimand yourself in this way, he will feel good and the scars will begin to heal.
Questioner: Should I bow down, touch his feet and ask for forgiveness?
Dadashri : No. That would be wrong; you will create other problem. Not that way. Turn him around with your speech. The hurt was through the speech, so heal with speech. By bowing down and touching his feet, the other person, whose mind has already turned in the wrong direction, will get the wrong message.
I meet so many different kinds of people, but I always maintain oneness with everyone. As long as that oneness is maintained there will be strength in that unity. If the oneness breaks, it will lose its strength. As long as that oneness exists, it will energize him. Therefore I have to be careful. Do we not have to keep a close watch on the experiments we are involved in ?
Your entire human birth is wasted in the entanglement of such obstructions. You have no right to call anyone senseless. When you tell someone he has no sense, he is likely to tell you the same thing in return, and he will create an obstruction for himself too. Now tell me, how can people in this world bring an end to such obstructions? When you tell others they are worthless, you are creating an obstruction to your own worth, but if you do pratikraman right away, the obstruction will be erased before it materializes.
Questioner : What if the obstruction is created in the mind and not through speech?
Dadashri : Obstructions created through the mind have greater consequences and their effects will be realized in the life to come. Consequences of obstruction created through speech will be experienced in this lifetime.
Questioner : What causes knowledge-obstructing karma (gnan-antaraya) and perception-obstructing karma (darshanantaraya)?
Dadashri : If you tell someone he does not understand anything and that you are the only one who understands, you have created knowledge-obstructing karma and perception
Questioner: How are obstructions (antaraya) created?
Dadashri : If this man were to serve me some snacks