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refuse to eat dinner, what will the others do? Will they all stay awake for you? They will go to sleep when it is time, so you will be the only loser.
What a cycle of becoming upset and noncommunicative risavoo and the appeasement that follows? And who would bother pampering and appeasing? When the dinner is ready, they will call out, 'Uncle, please come down for dinner. It is ready and everyone is waiting for you.' The uncle will say, 'Go, I am not coming.' Would everyone beg him to come over and over? Would they not start eating without him?
So I have never become upset and noncommunicative risavoo again. Even now, I have never upset and noncommunicative risavoo with anyone. Even with our business partner 'we' never became upset and noncommunicative. He used to become so occasionally, but not seeing any reaction within ‘us', he stopped being that way again.
Only the 'one' who reacts sees the one who is upset and
noncommunicative.
One man told me, 'My wife becomes very upset and noncommunicative risavoo with me repeatedly and will not speak to me.' I told him, “Who is the one saying, 'she is upset and noncommunicative risavoo'?' It is not 'You'. It is the one who is inclined to become upset and noncommunicative risad who is saying 'she is upset and noncommunicative risavoo' - who is that? It is the 'one-risad who is upset and noncommunicative risavoo himself who is complaining. It is not You. So "You should know janavoo that the one who has reacted and become upset-risad' is seeing all this. The one who is apt to become upset and noncommunicative risad is seeing the one who is upset and noncommunicative risavoo. The Self 'sees' only the Self. It does not see any other circumstance. Aggravated people see the one who is aggravated. So I told the man, 'It was the wife who was upset and noncommunicative risavoo, that is not her self-atma. She is woman. And the one who has become upset in reaction risad is not your Self-Atma. Who is the wife upset and noncommunicative risavoo with? She is upset and noncommunicative risavoo towards the one who is reacting from within risad. You see that! You keep 'seeing this.