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This can bring a solution, can it not? How can you solve it otherwise? Some keep becoming upset and noncommunicative risavoo and others keep cursing. That is how it is. But the Soul is separate from all these phases; the Soul is not to be found in any of this. What is the basis on which everything is taking place? Everything occurs based on each individual's karma. A person keeps receiving the fruits of his karma, what do 'we' have to do with that? Each person is enjoying the fruits of his karma, what do 'we' have to with them? That is how this is. If you want to attain the Self, then keep seeing the Self in others, and nothing else is worth seeing.
What is within our understanding samjan? Is there not a difference between your understanding and 'ours'? 'We are not affected by any pain or misery; what is the reason behind this? It is because 'our understanding is within 'us'. 'We do not drag in any ignorance agnan from outside. Whereas this person drags in worldy understanding agnan from others. What do we have to do with others? Everything is under the control of vyavasthit-scientific circumstantial evidences. It is an account. Nothing is going to be changed in this account. Can any changes be made outside the 'book' of karmic account? Then what is all this fuss about? And if the wife is upset and noncommunicative risavoo, only the one who reacts to this (risad) can see her as being upset and noncommunicative risavoo. The Self would not see the one who becomes upset and noncommunicative risavoo. Only the one prone to be upset in reaction risad will see. The risad human being is seeing the one who is upset. Otherwise, how can one see the one who is upset? Do you think people who come to me do not become upset and noncommunicative risavoo? But I do not see anyone as being upset. Will you not have to account and arrive at the correct understanding for all this? Do you not have to account for all this?
The unique method of vitaragata
Questioner: How do you deal with someone who becomes upset and noncommunicative risavoo with you?
Dadashri: With complete vitaragbhav - complete non-attachment from within along with the deep inner intent of salvation of the other. 'We' do not have any inner insistence of any kind. There is no intention of appeasing anyone either. If 'we' feel that in trying to appease the other person it will have a contrary effect, then 'we' would not say anything. If it