Philosophy of Soul and Matter

Author(s): Chitrabhanu, Clare Rosenfield
Publisher: Jain Meditation International Center

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Binding particles are attracted to sentient energy only when this energy is not in a state of awareness. It is in thc unaware state that we create either some passion of hatred or attachment:
Let us look for a moment at attachment. Love turned into attachment ceases to be love. It becomes binding and ultimately it breeds repulsion and hatred. Attachment wants to hold, bind, make a package and put it into the pocket. When you have deep, deep possessiveness, you turn the other person into an object and no longer see him moving with free will and with individual feeling.'
When you make someone into an object, you want "it" to act as you mold it, desire as you wish, speak as you speak. In other words, you want to sce yourself in that person. It leads to more and more possessiveness. This possessiveness goes even further —it wants to protect as well. When you say: **My child, my husband,” you are putting yourself there again.
- For example, you do not want the other person to meet or speak to anyone of whom you do not approve. He can only be your friend if he is enemy to your enemy. If he is friend to your enemy he is
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