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The fault of the sufferer content with his other sons who respected him. We ourselves bring such problems upon us. It is worth understanding this world.
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One day I asked the son why he was causing his father so much grief and whether he felt any remorse for doing so. He replied that he was having a good time and there was no reason for him to be unhappy since he was fortunate enough to enjoy his father's wealth. This son however, will suffer when his mistakes are caught. At present the one who is worried and suffering is at fault. If you understand this one law of nature, the path to liberation will be open to you.
I told the father he should find a way to help his son that is beneficial and that does not harm him. In addition, he should do whatever was necessary to help the son, without worries, and if he had the money to spare, he should help him financially.
Questioner: Is it because of their attachment and responsibility to their children that parents suffer?
Dadashri: The primary reason for their suffering is because of their own mistakes, but their attachment and responsibility also play a part. There are many other reasons. Most importantly, if you are suffering, it is your own fault. Therefore, do not see anyone else's fault, otherwise you will create new accounts for your next life.
There are two kinds of laws: Nature's law, and man's law. If you accept nature's law, your life will be simple and easy. If you accept man's law, puzzles and suffering will remain.
The fault of the sufferer
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Questioner But Dada one has to discover his mistakes himself does he not?
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Dadashri : No he is not capable of finding his own mistakes. He needs someone trustworthy to point them out to him. Once his mistakes are shown to him, he will become adept at recognizing them.
One must first learn how to live life. Once the quarrels at home cease, then you learn other things. Once you understand that the fault is of the sufferer, there will be no quarrels at home. If your mother-in-law harasses you and you are not able to sleep at night, while she sleeps soundly, you should recognize that you are at fault.
WHAT IF THE OTHER PERSON DOES NOT UNDERSTAND?
Questioner: There are some that just do not understand, even though our behavior towards them is very friendly.
Dadashri It is our own mistake that they do not understand. Why did you come across this particular person and not someone with understanding? Whenever you experience any suffering, it is as a result of your own mistakes.
Questioner: Are we to understand that such is our
karma?
Dadashri : Absolutely. There is no one in this world that can inflict the slightest of suffering on you, and if someone does, he is merely a nimit (instrument) in it.
A couple fights and later they go to bed not talking to
