Autobiograpy of Gyani Purush A M Patel

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Autobiography of Gnani Purursh
Autobiography of Gnani Purursh
come giving me a sob story whether it was true or not. I would continue to make such mistakes and this only served to encourage people. This is what Hiraba experienced and so I gave her the keys. This was before I acquired Gnan. After Gnan there has never been any conflicts between us. I Would Take Back And Turn My Words To Avoid
Conflicts Whatever I tell you has been tried and tested on myself first. Even before I attained Self-realization, I never had any conflicts with Hiraba. To have conflicts is the same as banging into a wall. People may not have such awareness but I would realize that I had banged into a wall with open eyes, whenever I got into a conflict.
Once I had a difference of opinion with Hiraba. I address my wife as Hiraba. ("Ba' means mother). As a Gnani Purush, I can refer to all women as 'ba' and all girls as daughters. This is not a long story; I can tell you if you want to hear it.
I had a difference of opinion with her one day. I almost became trapped that day. Hiraba announced one day that her brother's oldest daughter was getting married and she asked me what wedding gift of silver should we give her. I told her to give from whatever silver we had in the house. Do you know what she said to me? Normally we never used words like yours' or 'mine', in our home. We always said 'ours'. That day she told me, 'For your uncle's son, you give big silver dishes. That day the interaction turned to 'mine and yours' "Your uncle's son", she announced, it came down all the way to this level. I was taken aback by my own misunderstanding and so I immediately turned things around; there is no harm in doing that. It is better to turn around than get into conflicts. I
said to her, 'I don't mean to say that. In addition why don't you give her five hundred and one rupees?' 'What?" she responded. You are naïve. You are too naive. How can you give so much money? She responded. Did I not win? I proceeded, "Give her five hundred one rupees in cash and give her something small from the silver in our home'. She insisted that I was very naive and that we could not give so much money. Did I not avert a conflict? No matter what, I would not allow a conflict to take place and on top of that she tells me that I am naive. Instead of allowing thoughts such as "To my brother you give little, to enter her mind, she instead began to tell me, 'We cannot give so much money."
Coin Without Value Do not try to have your own way at home. The one who tries to keep control will have to wander. I told Hiraba that I am a coin without remunerative value. I cannot afford to wander. What does the coin without any value do? It has to sit next to God all the time. Usually such coins end up in the temple. If you try to do things your way in the home, will it not result in conflicts? Now, after Gnan, all you have to do is settle matters with equanimity. At home you have to live with your wife as a friend. You have to live as friends with each other. Here no one takes notice of who is in control. Neither is it recorded anywhere else in the municipal offices. God too does not keep any record of it. What is important, control or living happily? So find out where lies happiness. If they kept a record of who was in control, at the municipal offices, then I would not adjust. But here no one keeps records.
When I go home to Baroda, I live as Hiraba's guest. Hiraba would have a problem if a dog were to come into the house, but not a guest. If a dog were to come inside the house