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an irritated tone, "Where did you get that?" Instead, just adjust and ask kindly, "Son, where did you get your nice new hat? Was it very expensive?" This is how you should adjust.
Our religion declares that you must see convenience in inconvenience. For example, it occurred to me one night that the bed sheet was dirty so I made an adjustment in my mind that it was very nice and soft. It then began to feel very comfortable to me. It is the knowledge that we acquire through the five senses that makes us perceive inconvenience.
You suffer because of your opinions of good and bad. You must keep them in check. When we say something is good, other things by comparison become bad and begin to bother us. Whatever people say, whether it is true or not, we should adjust. If someone tells me I have no sense at all, I would adjust immediately by saying, "You are right. I was always a little slow. You just realized it today, whereas I have known about it from my childhood." If you respond like this, you will avoid conflict. They will never bother you again.
Adjustment with the Wife
Your wife is upset with you because you were detained at work and you come home late. She expresses her disapproval by shouting, "You are late. I will not put up with this anymore." She loses her temper so you should say, "Yes, Dear, you are quite right. If you tell me to go back, I will. If you tell me to sit inside, I will sit inside." She will respond, “No, don't go back. Just rest here quietly." Then you tell her, "If you tell me to, I will eat supper or else I will go to sleep," to which she will reply, "No, have your supper." This is adjustment. In the morning you will get a hot cup of tea. If you had become irate, she too would have reacted in a disgruntled manner and the
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