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keeping it shut, if no one were to knock for three or more hours. Then why not just leave it open! In the same way, if you have one misery after another, just ‘say' to the misery: “The door is open, so you can come and go as you please.”
What did all those who became saints' experience? They used to experience misery! Happiness and unhappiness are vikalp (wrong belief of the ‘relative'). So ‘change the vikalp around. Call happiness unhappiness; and unhappiness happiness. Leave your door open for whichever one that wants to come in.
Physical Happiness: Borrowed Happiness
Let go of your expectations of pudgal sukh (pleasures of the non-Self complex- mind, speech and body); it is just borrowed happiness. Pudgal happiness is not ‘free of cost’: it comes at a price. It will have to be repaid. How long can you stay happy on borrowed happiness? When can you borrow money? When you face shame and disgrace. But one has borrowed happiness from wherever he can, and so now he has to pay it back in the form of unhappiness (dukh). Whether it is through physical, mental or verbal suffering.
When your son calls out to you, “Daddy, daddy,” it should sound bitter to you. If it sounds sweet, and makes you feel good, it means that you have borrowed happiness which will have to be repaid in the form of unhappiness. When your son grows up he will say to you, “You have no sense.” That is when you will wonder 'what happened?' It is only because you borrowed it that you now have to repay. He is collecting on what (happiness) he gave you in the past. So, you should watch out from the very start! I had stopped the practice of borrowing happiness. Oh ho! There is infinite bliss in the Self, so why should you fall into that putrid garbage?
You cannot bear it when people at home, or outside, say anything unpleasant to you, which is why I tell you that, speech