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takes place! Yet, you sleep soundly. How much preparation is going on within while you sleep peacefully! Who does all that internally? Do you not have any suspicions about this?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: Then you should not have any suspicions about the outside world either. Whatever is taking place within the inner complex of mind-intellect-chit and ego (antahkaran), the same is taking place on the outside, so why get upset over it? Why do you invite unnecessary external problems?
Suspicion is harmful at all times
One becomes suspicious of his daughter when she goes to college. He will even suspect his wife. What a betrayal! In this era of Kaliyug, there is betrayal even amongst people in the same home. Kaliyug means an era of betrayal. There is nothing but deceit and betrayal, deceit and betrayal, deceit and betrayal. For what happiness does a person do this? And that too, one does it in complete unawareness. Intelligent people should not be doing this. People with clean intellect should not have deceit and betrayal; only the foolish do. Kaliyug means collection of foolish people.
Questioner: Does attachment and abhorrence not play a role in mistrust and betrayal?
Dadashri: Only in the presence of attachment and abhorrence (raag dwesh) does all this take place. Otherwise, if a person does not have any raag-dwesh, he will not have these problems. It makes no difference if a person without raagdwesh does good or bad, because although he plays with dirt, there is no oil on his body (nothing will stick to him i.e. he will not create any karma because he does not have raag or dwesh), while others have oil on their body!
Questioner: But does the buddhi (intellect) not take part in deceit (kapat) and betrayal?
Dadashri: No, good intellect will get rid of deceit and betrayal; it will maintain a safe-side. On the one hand, suspicion kills a person, then deceit and betrayal is inevitable, and everyone is caught up indulging in their worldly 'happiness'.
Questioner: But to remain in such happiness, does one not use deceit and betrayal with the help of the intellect?
Dadashri: There is no presence of good buddhi (intellect) when one is looking for his own happiness. Good buddhi looks for everyone's collective happiness in the home. But here, the son looks for his own happiness, the wife looks for her own happiness, the daughter looks for her own happiness, the father looks for his own happiness and so everyone looks for his or her own happiness. If these facts were exposed, then no family members would live with each other. But they all eat, drink and live together, so it is best left covered.
There is absolutely no need to be suspicious in any situation. Suspicion verily destroys a person. Everyone is dying because of his or her suspicions. The mightiest ghost' in this world is that of suspicion. The best of people have been destroyed by it; therefore do not let suspicion arise in the first place. Destroy it the moment it arises. Do not let it grow. Otherwise it will not let you live peacefully. Suspicion has killed and destroyed even the greatest of men like the powerful Chakravarti emperors.
The dangers are grave Even if people tell you, this man is worthless, you should call him worthy because at times he may not be worthless and if you call him worthless, you will incur a tremendous liability. If a woman is chaste and virtuous, it is a terrible sin to call her a prostitute. You incur such a liability that you will have to pay for it for many lives to come. Therefore, do not say anything that will violate someone's character because what if it is not true? What is your own worth if you say things about someone