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Aptavani-9
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Aptavani-9
Tragu became a heavy liability for a lady
There was a woman at my friend's home. She was either his relative or his elder sister. One day she used heavy deception (kapat) in order to bully my friend. When someone was visiting him, she became hysterical and started hitting herself. This scared my friend and the other man. My friend told me what had happened when he met me. I told him, 'I will come to your house next time this happens.' Then one day I went there and she performed the same 'show' (taipho; open exposition of tragu)! She did a tragu! She would jump and my friend would get scared. So I asked that lady, 'Do you enjoy all this? You jump very well. Why don't you jump some more? We enjoy it very much.' I said something like this and she started cursing at me, 'Why did you come to our house?'
Therefore, 'we' know such deceitful acts and we have the keys to deal with them. Very few people do tragu; about two percent of men do tragu and in women it is about ten percent. Tragu is more prevalent in women.
Did you get the meaning of tragu? Only people in the old days knew how to do them. I feel the children of today do not know how to do them. How would they know? Their overall makeup is not strong enough; they are weaklings. Those who do tragas have a very aggressive constitution. Young people today get nervous at the slightest scare.
Ingrained in the prakruti Questioner: Does the one doing a tragu realize that he is doing it?
Dadashri: Definitely! Tragu itself means to do according to one's wishes. It has become an ingrained part of one's prakruti and therefore the owner is not able to discern whether his action is beneficial to him or not. But she knows and understands everything. Why would she not? When one can understand even the smallest of things, tragu is a major thing.
Beware of those doing tragu! One lady came to me and started doing a tragu. She was a respectable lady, elder to me. I did not give into her tragu. Then she tells me, 'You are the only one who has not succumbed to me.' I told her, 'It is not that I do not yield. I would not yield to God either in such matters.' This is because whenever she initiated a tragu, I would know it immediately.
Tragu means to scare the other person to death. 'We' became a Gnani recently but prior to that I had an ego, did I not? At that time I would say, 'Go ahead and bang your head: let me see you do that. Are you trying to scare me? I sit here having scared the whole world.'I am such a man that I can get rid of the tragas of the whole world. I am such a magician! People doing tragu will not let you get ahead in life. To do tragu means to put a lot of pressure on others.
I was visiting a man when another man came to him. Do you know what he started to do in order to scare him? He started to bang his head on the ground and so I asked him, 'Hey Brother! What is the matter? What is wrong?' So the other man said, 'Look, he does this to scare me. Soft and mild people get scared easily. If a person refuses to sign certain documents, then the other man will do tragu to scare him into signing them. The man will then say, 'Here, give the papers to me. I will sign them.' Therefore, a man doing tragu will bang his head on the wall in this way
What is a bad quality in men? It is that of doing a tragu. Do not have any relation with a man who does tragu. Women by nature may do tragu, but some men do tragu too.
Questioner: You said that a bad quality in a man is that of tragu and that we should not interact with such a person?
Dadashri: No, you should not. He will scare you too. You too will get scared.