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the Self. All of us have to face circumstances, we should have preference for circumstances that help us progress towards the Self, we should not have preference for circumstances that help us in the relative world. Worldly people make two distinctions in all circumstances, a profitable (beneficial) circumstance or a circumstance of loss (non-beneficial circumstance). But we know that profit and loss is not in our control. The circumstance that brings us satsang is the circumstance that is worth choosing All other circumstances are merely just that, circumstances. And the biggest circumstance of all, the one that always sleeps with you at night and stays with you during the day, the circumstance of the mind, speech and body are the very circumstances that has brought you suffering, so what other circumstances will bring you happiness? This circumstance of the mind, speech and body is not likely to leave you and there you have to do sambhave nikal; you have to deal with it, with equanimity.
It is like this, the more difficult the circumstance, the more this Gnan will flourish. Nevertheless one does not have to go out looking for difficult circumstances either; just deal with them as they come, with equanimity.
Bitter circumstances can be made sweet Dadashri : How is your mother's health?
Questioner: Ordinarily her health is good but yesterday she fell in the bathroom; she is getting old now.
bully a weakling. The Lord has said that whenever you spoil any circumstance of another being, you are really spoiling your own circumstance and you will have to face the very same circumstance.
Every circumstance is a 'file' and you have to deal with it with equanimity. For countless past lives one has been contemptuous towards circumstances he did not like, and that is why in this life he has to have to face circumstances that bring nothing but contempt from every direction. Circumstances represent the account of parmanus that are brought forth by vyavasthit. People keep cursing and pushing away bitter circumstances. Circumstances say, "We have come because vyavasthit has sent us. If you curse us, vyavasthit will make you pay." And people welcome with open arms circumstances that are pleasant. If you remain within the circumstances, circumstances will perish and so will you but if you remain as the Self, separate from circumstances. You will remain separate and eternal.
Bitter circumstances will still come even if you reject and repel them and pleasant circumstances will still go away even if you invite them. You have wasted away countless past lives doing just this: you have done nothing but adverse meditation. If you want liberation, then remain as the Self (shukla dhyan) and if you want the worldly life, then maintain an attitude of helping others and avoid negative meditation (artadhyan and raudradhyan). A person who has dharma dhyan maintains the awareness, 'It is my own past life's account that brings forth this bitter circumstance,' when someone hurts him. Thus he turns the negative circumstance around into a positive and a pleasant one. If a person comes to fight claiming you paid him 25 rupees less, you should settle the matter by giving him 25 rupees plus another 5. Please him and then send him away. This way you will have sweetened that circumstance. If you 'wash and clean the circumstances that present to you, you will have only good circumstances in your coming life. The circumstances that harass
Dadashri : The rule of circumstances is that one weak circumstance will pull together many other weak circumstances and one strong circumstance will pull together many other strong circumstances. Old age is a circumstance of weakness that is why one meets with other circumstances of weakness. To the one who is weak and feeble will come circumstances of weakness. We have no choice but somehow deal with circumstances in any way that we can. People of this world will