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Questioner: Is it a tragu when one pounds his fists on his chest or bang his head on a wall?
Dadashri: When people bang their heads, some of it is obsytinacy and some of it is a tragu. The word tragu is something very different; in a tragu the one doing the tragu is not affected by it at all. In aadai, that person continues to experience internal suffering. Simply put, tragu is pure acting! This above issue of locking oneself up is obstinacy. In a tragu, the person cries and shouts but remains unpeturbed from within. Locking one's self in a room and scaring family members is all obstinacy. She suffers and makes others around her suffer too. In a tragu, she herself is not affected and yet she does a tragu; that is tragu! We need a definition, do we not? Surely you cannot lable any action as a tragu, can you?
Keep your distance from manipulative tantrum
Tragu- manipulative tantrum does tremendous damage.
Questioner: Can you explain tragu with an example?
Dadashri: Can you not tell when someone is doing a tragu? You may not know how to do a tragu but can you not tell when someone is doing it?
Questioner: Is insisting on the truth satyagraha, a tragu?
Dadashri: That is one kind of a mild tragu for sure, but for that one can use words that are more ornamental and suitable. People use the ornamental word 'satyagraha'. Besides no one will call tragu-manipulative tantrum as satyagraha, will they?
In short, tragu means to force others into doing what you want when they are not willing to do so. One resorts to tragu inorder to scare and manipulate others into ultimately doing what one wants. One will invoke fear, do this and that, emotional blackmail in this manipulative behavior to attain one's calculated desired end.
Questioner: They will make you do what they want, through using their charm, money, punishment and the fear of separation.