Book Title: Jain Marriage Ceremony
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Publisher: JAINA Education Committee
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Page #1 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ jaina lagna vidhi Jain Wedding Ceremony Wedding Program 1. Arrival of the Jan (groom's party) 2. Ponkhna Ceremony 3. Ganesh Puja and Mangalcharan 4. Antarpata (curtain between the bride and groom) 5. Kanya Agamana (arrival of the bride) 6. Manglastak (message of goodness as curtain is removed and garlands exchanged) 7. Mangal Tilak 8. Rishi Mantra 9. Abhisheka 10. Kanya Daan (giving away of the bride) 11. Chhedabandhan (tying of the knot) 12. Hasta Melap (joining of the hands) 13. Mangalphera 14. Saptapadi (seven sacred steps walked together) 15. Mangalsutra, Rings, and Sindoor (wedding necklace, rings, and holy red powder) 16. Kansar Ceremony (holy food offering) 17. Shanti Mantra (peace chant) 18. Akhand Saubhagyavati Bhava (whispered blessings for the bride) 19. Ashirwad (final blessings) 20. Biddai (farewell to the bride) Wedding Ceremony Marriage is the sacred union of two individuals coming together and marks entry into the householder stage of life. The marriage sacrament impresses upon a person that the earthly life should be consciously and fully accepted and elevated to the level of spiritual experience, growth, and conquest of ego and self. It is a fellowship between a man and woman who seek to love unconditionally, live creatively, and grow peacefully in a loving and lasting partnership as they move through the four stages of life. In the presence of auspicious beings, past, present, and future, sacred vows of marriage will be exchanged to signify the harmonious merging of two bodies and two souls. We welcome you to the wedding ceremony of (bride name) and (groom name). Page #2 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ Arrival of the Groom's Party Groom and his party arrive at the venue of the marriage in a procession. They are received by bride's family and groom is led to an archway immediately outside the wedding hall. He is asked to stand on a low platform called a bajoth. The Navkar Mantra (Jain prayer) is recited to mark the beginning of the auspicious occasion. The Navkar Mantra is the most sacred and primary of Jain verses, invoking the pancha (five) Parmeshtis - the Arihant (enlightened, perfect souls), the Siddha (the liberated souls; those free of all karma), the Acharya (the heads of congregations), the Upadhyay (the ascetic teachers), and the Sadhus (the ascetic aspirants). navakAra maMtra namo arihaMtANaM namo siddhANaM namo AyariyANa namo uvajjhAyANaM namo loe savva sAhUNaM eso paMca namukkAro savva pAvappaNAsaNo maMgalANaM ca savvesi paDhamaM havaI maMgale navakara mantra namo arihantanam namo siddhanam namo ayariyanamp namo uvajjhayannam namo loe savva sahunam eso pancha namukkaro savva pavappanasano mangalanam cha savvesim padhamam havai mangalam 2. Ponkhna Ceremony Assisted by the priest, bride's mom performs the Ponkhna, or the welcoming ceremony in which bad omens are dispelled before groom's enters the wedding hall. At the end of this ceremony, the priest asks the groom to step on two earthenware saucers and to crush them. The groom is then led inside the wedding hall to the mandapah by his best men. They take a seat, followed by the bride's parents. zrI saMzrayaH vizvAstraH, niraMjana, nirmama niSkalaMka, sa eva bhagavAna, Page #3 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ zAMtim karotu, tRSTima karotu, puSTima karo, Rddhima karotu, vRddhi karotu, sukham karotu, saukhyam karotu, zriyam karotu, lakSmIm karo, oma ahama sri samsrayah visvastrah, niranjana, nirmama niskalanka, sa eva bhagavana, santim karotu, trstim karotu, pustim karotu rddhim karotu, vrddhim karotu, sukham karotu, saukhyam karotu, sriyam karotu, laksmim karotu om arhama 3. Ganesh Puja and Mangalcharan The wedding Ceremony begins with a prayer invocating the lord Ganesh, whose divine grace dispels all evil and promotes the successful and peaceful completion of today's occasion. Blessings for the bride, groom, and all present are asked for. Lord Ganesh is a symbol of peace, truth, friendship, and happiness. In addition to asking lord Ganesh for blessings, the Navkar Mantra is recited again before the priest asks the bride to enter the mandapah. namo arihaMtANaM namo siddhANaM namo AyariyANaM namo uvanjhAyANaM namo loe savva sAhUNe eso paMca namukkAro savva pAvappaNAsaNo maMgalANaM ca savvasiM paDhamaM havaI maMgala namo arihantanam namo siddhanam namo ayariyanam namo uvajjhayanam namo loe savva sahunam eso pancha namukkaro savva pavappanasano mangalanam cha savvesim Page #4 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ padhamam havai mangalam ahaMnto bhagavanta indramahitAH siddhAtha siddhisthitA AcAryA jinazAsanonnatikarAra pUjyA upAdhyAyakA zrI siddhAnta-supAThakA munivarAH ratnatrayArAdhakAH paMcaite parameSThinaH pratidina kuNvanta vo maMgalama arhanto bhagavanta indramahitah siddhascha siddhisthita acarya jinasasanonnatikarah pujya upadhyayakah. sri siddhanta-supathaka munivarah ratnatrayaradhakah panchaite paramesthinah pratidinam kurvuntu vo mangalam. OM hrIM ahaMma zrI gautamasvAmine namaH OM hrIM ahaMma zrI gautamasvAmine namaH OM hrIM ahaMma zrI gautamasvAmine namaH OM hrim arham sri gautamasvamine namah OM hrim arham sri gautamasvamine namah OM hrim arham sri gautamasvamine namah 4. Antarpata (Curtain between the bride and groom) Before the bride enters the wedding hall, her brothers raise a white curtain in front of the groom so that the groom can see her enter the mandap. Some say this creates suspense for the groom, but the traditional reason is that the bride and groom are still separate at this point, and when the curtain is removed they begin to join as one. 5. Kanya Agamana (arrival of the bride) The priest calls for the bride and her attendants to enter the wedding hall and the mandap (stage). The bride is led to the mandap by her maternal uncle who blesses the couple. She is also greeted by the mother of the groom. Indian brides traditionally wear a red and white sari as the white signifies purity and red signifies abundance and fertility. Upon her arrival, the groom is asked to stand and to face the bride while still behind the curtain separating them. 6. Mangalashtaks (curtain removal & garland exchange) Separated by the white curtain, the bride and groom are asked to face each other holding garlands. The priest recites Mangalashtaks (special prayers) to invite the divine to witness the marriage and to bless the bride and groom. The white curtain between the bride and groom is removed, symbolically removing all feelings of separateness. This moment marks the joining of two as one. The bride and groom place garlands around each other as this symbolizes their acceptance and love for each other. OM parameSThinamaskAraM sAdaraM navapadAtmaka Page #5 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ AtmarakSAkara vajU-paMjarAmaM smarAmyahaM ||1|| OM paramesthinamaskaram sadaram navapadatmakam. atmaraksakaram vajra-panjarabham smaramyaham ..1.. OM namo arihaMtANaM ziraske zirasi sthita OM namo siddhANaM, mukhe mukhaparTa varaM pArA OM namo arihantanam siraskam sirasi sthitam. OM namo siddhanam, mukhe mukhapatam varam ..2.. OM namo AyariyANaM, aMgarakSAtizAyinI OM namo uvanjhAyANaM, AyudhaM hastaryodRDha laIL OM namo ayariyanam, amgaraksatisayini. OM namo uvajjhayanam, ayudham hastaryordrdham ..3.. OM namo loe savvasAhaNe, mocake pADayo: zubhe. eso paMca namukkAro, zilA vajumayI tale I4 OM namo loe savvasahunam, mochake padayoh subhe. eso pancha namukkaro, sila vajramayi tale ..4.. savvapAvappaNAsaNo, vapro vajUmayo bahiHA maMgalANaM ca savvasiM, khAdirAMgAra khAtikA /pA. savvapavappanasano, vapro vajramayo bahih. mangalanam cha savvesim, khadirangara khatika ..5.. svAhAMta ca padaM zeya, paDhamaM havaI maMgalA vapropari vajumaya, pidhAna deharakSaNe IIkA. svahantam cha padam jneyam, padhamam havai mangalam. vapropari vajramayam, pidhanam deharaksane ..6.. mahAprabhAva rakSaya, zudropadravanAzinI parameSThipadohnatA, kathitApUrvasUribhiH ||LA mahaprabhava rakseyam, srudropadravanasini. paramesthipadodbhuta, kathitapurvasuribhih ..7.. yazkevaM karute rakSAM parameSThipadaiH sadA. tasya na syAd bhaya vyAdhi-rAdhi sthApi kadAcana II8aaaa yasvevam karute raksam paramesthipadaih sada. tasya na syad bhayam vyadhi-radhi svapi kadachana ..8.. 7. Mangal Tilak The priest makes a saffron, sandalwood, or kanku mark on the foreheads of the bride, groom, and the bride's parents and on himself. A Rakshapotli (sacred red thread specially prepared and Page #6 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ blessed prior to the wedding day for protection) is tied around the wrists of the bride, groom, and their parents as an offering of peaceful wishes. maMgala bhagavAna vIro, maMgala gautama prabhu; maMgala sthUlabhadrAdyA, jaina dharmostu maMgala. mangala bhagavana viro, mangalam gautama prabhu; mangalam sthulabhadradya, jaina dharmostu mangalam. nAbhe AdyA jinAH sarve, bharatAdyAhya cakriNa: karvanta maMgala sarve, viSNuvaH prativiSNavaH || nabhe adya jinah sarve, bharatadyascha chakrinah. karvantu mangalam sarve, visnuvah prativisnavah.. marUdevI trizalAdyA vikhyAta jinamAtarA. trijagata janitA naMdA, maMgalAya bhavaMtu me || marudevi trisaladya vikhyata jinamatara. trijagat janita nanda, mangalaya bhavantu me.. cakrezvarI siddhAyikA, mukhyAH zAsanadevatA samyadarzI vighnaharAH racayaMtu jayazriyam II chakresvari siddhayika, mukhyah sasanadevata. samyadarsa vighnaharah rachayantu jayasriyam .. brAhmIcaMdanabAlAdyAH mahAsatyo mahattarADA akhaMDazIla-lIlAyA yacchanta mama maMgalam II brahmichandanabaladyah mahasatyo mahattarah. akhandasila-lilaya yacchantu mama mangalam .. 8. Rishi Mantra (Prayer to enlightened souls) The bride and groom make an offering of laving (cloves) each time a verse of this prayer is recited to honor the enlightened souls in the universe. A total of 15 clove offerings are made. (1) OM satyajAtAya nama:| - the great born (1) OM satyajataya namah. (2) OM ahaMjjAtAya namaHA - Arihantas (enlightened ones) (2) OM arhajjataya namah. (3) nigraMthAya nama: - those without material ties (3) OM nirgranthaya namah. (4) OM vItarAgAya namaH| - those with no attachments (4) OM vitaragaya namah. (5) OM mahAvratAya nama:| - those who have taken vows (5) OM mahavrataya namah. Page #7 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ (6) OM triguptAya namaH| - those with control of body, mind and speech (6) OM triguptaya namah. (7) OM mahAyogAya namaH - those who are yogis (7) OM mahayogaya namah. (8) OM vividhayogAya namaH| - those who meditate (8) OM vividhayogaya namah. (9) OM vividhartaye namaH| - those who make offerings (9) OM vividharddhaye namah. (10) OM aMgadharAya namaI - those possessing knowledge of anga scriptures (10) OM amgadharaya namah. (11) OM pUrvadharAya nama: - those possessing knowledge of purva scriptures (11) OM purvadharaya namah. (12) UMOM gaNadharAya namaH| - disciples of Arihantas (12) OM ganadharaya namah. (13) OM paramathiMbhyo namonamaH| - sages (13) OM paramarsibhyo namonamah. (14) OM anupama jAtAya namonama: - those born in a virtuous family (14) OM anupama jataya namonamah. (15) OM samyagadaSTa samyaga dRSTa bhUpate bhUpate - those who have been enlightened by the faith. (15) OM samyagadrste samyag drste bhupate bhupate 9. Abhisheka (blessing from priest) The priest takes holy water in the pointed part of a beetle leaf and anoints the heads of the bride and groom. This offering symbolizes peace and happiness. The prayer offered binds the bride and groom together in an eternal bond. OM arham idam Asanam adhyAsIno svadhyAsIno sthitI susthitI tadastu vA sanAtana saMgama! OM arhama OM namohaMta siddhAcAryopAdhyAya sarva sAdhubhyA OM arham : idam asanam adhyasino svadhyasino sthitau susthitau tadastu va sanatana sangamah. OM arham OM namorhat siddhacaryopadhyaya sarva sadhubhyah. Page #8 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ 10. Kanya Daan (giving away of the bride) The bride's parents perform the ritual of giving their daughter to the care of the groom through a symbolic gesture of holy water flowing from their hands through the bride's hands and into the groom's hands. The bride's parents ask the groom to treat their daughter as a loving and equal partner and formally give their daughter in marriage to the groom. The groom promises to love and respect the bride throughout their life. The bride's parents place the varmala (hand-woven cord) around the couple, uniting them and protecting them from all evil influences. The priest opens the blessed invitation and scroll and reads the contents: "Today, on the 20th day of October, 2001, xxxx (bride name), daughter of xxxx and xxxx (bride's parent name), of xxxx (town name), xxxx (state name); and xxxx (groom's name), son of xxxx and xxxx xxxx (groom's parent names), of xxxx (town name), xxxx (state name) are joining in holy matrimony. May xxxx (bride name) and xxxx (groom name) be granted peace, contentment, prosperity, and wisdom throughout their lives together. Om Arhum" 11. Chheda Bandhan (Tying of the knot) The bride's sister ties one end of the groom's scarf to one corner of the bride's sari signifying eternal togetherness. The white cloth is a symbol of purity and unity. The threads of the white cloth are believed to bind the couple as eternal partners. While a single thread of raw cotton is easily torn, interwoven strands of cotton form a strong bond. Similarly, the abilities and virtues of the bride and groom are much stronger when combined than separated. asmin janmaye baMdhoorve kAme dharme vA gRhasthatva bhAji / yogo jAtaH paMca devAgni sAkSI jAyA patthoraMcala graMthi baMdhAtA asmin janmayesa bandhoddhyorve kame dharme va grhasthatva bhaji. yogo jatah pancha devagni saksi jaya patuoranchala granthi bandhat. 12. Hasta Melap (joining of the hands) This ceremony is the union of the two palms. Holding each other's right hand, the bride and groom vow to walk hand in hand throughout their life. This signifies that bride and groom are united as one and will live as one in body, mind, and spirit. This is considered the most important part of the wedding ceremony. The couple is reminded to remember the divine, to look upon others with sympathy, love, and compassion, to be strong and to show good will and affection towards others. hArita paMkamavalipsa suvAsinIbhiA datta dro janakayoH khalu tau gRhItyA // dakSikara nijasutAM bhavamagrapANimA limped varasya ca karadraya yojanArtha // tadeva lagna sudinaM tadeva, tArA balaMcandra balaM dateva, Page #9 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ vidyAbale devabala tadeva, tIrthaMkarAnAM smaraNa zusaMtA haridra pankamavalipya suvasinibhih. dattam dvayo janakayoh khalu tau glhitva.. daksikaram nijasutam bhavamagrapanim. limped varasya cha karadvaya yojanartha .. tadeva lagnam sudinam tadeva, tara balanchandra balam dateva, vidyabalam devabalam tadeva, tirthankaranam smaranam subhantu. namo arihaMtANe namo siddhANaM namo AyariyANaM namo uvajajhAyANaM namo loe savvasAhUNam eso paMca namukkAro savvapAvappaNAsaNo maMgalANaM ca savvasiM paDhamaM havaI maMgala namo arihantanam namo siddhanam namo ayariyanam namo uvajjhayanam namo loe savvasahunam eso pancha namukkaro savvapavappanasano mangalanam cha savvesim padhamam havai mangalam OM arhamA AtmAsi, jIvoDasi, samakAloDasi, samacittoDasi, samazreyoDasi, samadehoDasi, samasnehoDasi, sama sama pramodoDAsa, sama gamoDAsa, samaviharoDasi, sama mokSoDasi, tadehi ekatva idAnIya ahaM OM OM zAntiH zAntiH zAntiH OM svIM svIM haMsaH svAhA. om arham Page #10 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ OM arham! atmasi, jivo'si, samakalo'si, samacitto'si, samasreyo'si, samadeho'si, samasneho'si, sama sama pramodo'si, sama gamo'si, samaviharo'si, sama mokso'si, tadehi @katvam idaniyam. arham OM OM santih santih santih OM ksvim ksvim hamsah svaha. om arham 13. Mangalphera This ceremony is a reminder of the four stages of life which are Brahmacharya (from birth to the date of marriage), Gruhastha (married life stage), Vanaprasthya (learning, self-study and preparation for the four stage), and Sanyasa (renouncement of materialism to serve mankind). Bound by the knot Bride and Groom walk around the agni (fire) holding hands four times to remind themselves of the basic principles that should govern their daily activities and thought processes. Groom leads the first three rounds, signifying his contribution in helping each other attain dharma, artha, and kama. The last round is led by Bride signifying liberation from this life. Each walk around the Agni (fire) is initiated by the bride's brother filling the bride's palms with rice signifying the following blessings; good health, happiness, wealth, and prosperity. The rice is then offered by the bride to the fire. The four basic principles are: (1) Dharma - trust, sincerity, honesty, and discipline (philosophical or religious pursuits) (2) Artha - earning a livelihood by truthful and honest means (wealth) (3) Kama - happiness in family life (family and children) (4) Moksha - eternal bliss when one leaves all material thoughts, beliefs, and attachments behind (reincarnation or nirvana) agnisthApanAno maMtra OM hrIM namo agnaye, namo ananta tejase, namo havyAzanAya, atra kuMDa Agaccha, Agaccha, avatara, avatara, tiSTha tiSTha svAhA. OM arhamA anAdi vizvA anAdirAtmA! anAdi kAlA anAdi karma anAdi saMbaMdha aham OM agnisthapanano mantra OM hrim namo agnaye, namo ananta tejase, namo havyasanaya, atra kunde agaccha, agaccha, avatara, avatara, tistha tistha svaha. OM arham! anadi visvam! anadiratma! anadi kalah! anadi karma! anadi sambandhah! arham OM 13. Mangalphera (continued) prathama maMgala sajjAtiH sad gRhasthatve pArivrAjya surendratA Page #11 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ sAmrAjya paramArhattva nirvANuM ceti saptakam // prathama mangala sajjatih sad grhasthatvam parivrajyam surendrata. samrajyam paramarhantyam nirvanam ceti saptakam .. bIjuM maMgaLa sajjAti sadguhasthatva pArivrAjyaM surendratA sAmrAjya paramArhattva nirvANuM ceti saptakam // bijum mangala sajjati sadgrhasthatvam parivrajyam surendrata. samrajya paramarhantyam nirvanam ceti saptakam .. trIjuM maMgaLa sajjAti sadguhasthatva pArivrAjyaM surendratA sAmrAjya paramArhattva nirvANuM ceti saptakam // OMOM arhamA sahajoDasti svabhAvo'sti, saMbaMdhoDasti, pratibaddho'sti, tadasti sAMsarika saMbaMdhaH| arham sajjAtiH sadRhasthanaM parivrAjyaM surendratA II sAmrAjya paramArhantayaM nirvANuM ceti saptakam // trijum mangala sajjati sadgrhasthatvam parivrajyam surendrata. samrajya paramarhantyam nirvanam ceti saptakam .. OM arham. sahajo'sti svabhavo'sti, sambandho'sti, pratibaddho'sti, tadasti samsarika sambandhah, arham OM sajjatih sadgrhasthatnam parivrajyam surendrata.. samrajya paramarhantayam nirvanam ceti saptakam .. cothuM maMgaLa nirvANa paramasthAnaM jinabhASitamuttamam| pUjyate saptavargANi svargamokSasukhAkaram // OMOM hrIM nirvANa parama sthAnAya namaH svAhA cothum mangala nirvana paramasthanam jinabhasitamuttamam. pujyate saptavargani svargamoksasukhakaram.. OM hrim nirvana parama sthanaya namah svaha 14. Saptapadi (seven sacred steps walked together) It is said in Indian philosophy that if two people walk seven steps together, then they will be lifelong friends. The bride and groom take seven steps together and with each step they accept the vows Page #12 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ recited by the priest. At the end of each step/walk, the open palms of the bride are filled to overflowing with puffed rice by her brother, signifying abundance of wealth and prosperity. We shall always remain together in happiness and sorrow. We shall embrace each other's families as our own. We shall remain life partners & serve each other with happiness and love. We shall assist each other in all circumstances. We shall share our minds, hearts, and spirits. We strive to grow our love and spiritual and philosophical quests. We agree to a life of equal rights and will perform our duties with mutual cooperation and respect. After taking the seven steps, the couple takes the following vows: We have taken the first seven steps as life partners, let us be friends and partners forever. Let us have a joint purpose and determination. Let us love each other and shine together. Let us grow together when possible and to understand the other's growth when separate from our own. Let us not swerve from the path of our love, devotion, commitment, and friendship with each other. Let us be complimentary and peaceful in our thoughts, speech, actions, and feelings. The couple is now officially married and exchange rings and the wedding necklace. 15. Mangalsutra, Rings, and Sindoor (wedding necklace, rings, and holy red powder) Groom places sindoor on Bride's forehead and welcomes her into his life as his eternal partner. He also places a sacred necklace made of black beads around her neck as a symbol of his love, integrity, and devotion towards her. Finally, Bride and Groom exchange wedding bands to show that they are now married. The priest requests the audience to say the following words aloud: OM puNyAha puNyA, priyaMta priyatam OM punyaham punyaham, priyantam priyantam (may there be meritorious and good deeds) At this time, witnesses of the wedding shower rice on the couple to convey their blessings for longevity and prosperity. 16. Kansar Ceremony (holy food offering) Nourishing the relationship through holy food offerings, the bride's mother brings the couple some Indian sweets. The bride and groom feed each other four mouthfuls of sweets for the nourishment of the bone, the muscle, the skin, and the soul. This signifies that she is his wife and that he is her husband and together they will provide for one another and their families. The sharing of sweets also signifies the rich and sweet life that awaits them. 17. Shanti Mantra (peace prayer) As the end of the ceremony approaches, the priest receites a peace chant asking for universal peace for all beings. The priest also sprinkles vasaksepa (orange holy powder) on the heads of the couple and gives them further good wishes and blessings. OM hI ane asi A sAya namaH sarvazAnti kuru kuru svAhAH OM hrim arham asi a saya namah sarvasantim kuru kuru svahah Page #13 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ OMOM supratigRhItAstu, zAntirastu, tuSTirastu, puSTirastu, Rddhirastu, vRddhirastu, zivamastu, kalyANamastu, karmasiddhirastu, dIrdhAyurastu, puNya vardhatAM, dharmAM vardhatAM, kulagautravardhatAm svasti bhadraM astA OM supratigrhitastu, santirastu, tustirastu, pustirastu, aeddhirastu, vddhirastu, sivamastu, kalyanamastu, karmasiddhirastu, dirdhayurastu, punyam vardhatam, dharmom vardhatam, kulagautravardhatam svastim bhadram astu. OMOM zAntiH zAntiH zAntiH OM svIM svIM haMsaH svAhAH| OM santih santih santih OM ksvim ksvim hamsah svahah. sarva maMgala mAMgalyuM, sarva kalyANa kAraNa pradhAnaM sarva dharmANAM, jainaM jayati zAsanamA sarva mangala mangalyam, sarva kalyana karanam pradhanam sarva dharmanam, jainam jayati sasanam. namo arihaMtANaM namo siddhANaM namo AyariyANaM namo uvajjhAyANaM namo loe savvasAhUNaM eso paMca namukkAro savvapAvappaNAsaNo maMgalANaM ca savvusiM paDhamaM havaI maMgalaM namo arihantanam namo siddhanam namo ayariyanam namo uvajjhayanam namo loe savvasahunam eso pancha namukkaro savvapavappanasano mangalanam cha savvesim padhamam havai mangalam Page #14 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ 18. Akhand Saubhagyavati Bhava (whispered blessings for the bride) A pre-arranged number of female relatives from both sides of the family are invited to the mandap (stage) to give their blessings to the bride and groom. The female relatives whisper secrets into the bride's ear to help her keep herself and her husband happy throughout their life. The women place a red dot and some rice on both the bride and groom's foreheads. This symbolizes their wishes to the couple for a long, happy, prosperous, and peaceful life together. 19. Ashirwad (blessing by the priest and parents) The priest and family offer their final blessings to the newly married couple and shower them with rice and flowers. 20. Biddai (farewell to the Bride) Either following the dinner reception or on the next day, there is a touching and emotional farewell between the daughter and her parents and extended family as she leaves her life as a daughter and enters the role of wife to her husband. Some Popular Mantras Om bhoor bhuvah svah; tat savitur varaynyam; bhargo dayvasya dheemahi; dhiyo yonah prachoda-yat; Om. (Rig Veda 3.62.10 and Yujur Veda 36.3) Gurur Brahma gurur Vishnuh, gurur devo Maheshvarah; gurussakshat param Brahma, tasmai shri gurave namah. (Guru Gita) Akhanda-mandala-karam, uyaptam yenachara-charam; tat padam darshitam yena, tasmai shri gurave namah. (Guru Gita) Sarva-dharman paritya-jaya, maam ekam sharanam vraja. Aham tvaa sarva-paapebhyo, moksha-yisyaami maa suchah. (BG 18.66) Sarva mangala mangalye, shive sarva artha sadhike. Sharanye trayambake gauri, Narayani namostute. (Durgasaptasati or Chandi 11.10) Twameva mata cha pita twameva, Twameva bandhuscha skha twameva. Twameva vidya dravinam twameva, twameva sarvam mama deva-deva. Page #15 -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ________________ Om sarve bhavantu sukhinah, sarve santu nira-maya-ah; sarve bhadrani pashyantu, ma-kaschit dukha-bhak bhavet. Om shantih, shantih, shantih. Om poornam-adah poornam-idam, Poor-nath poornam-udachyate; Poor-nasya poornam-adaya, poornam-eva-vasishyate. (Isavasya Upanishad) Om sahanaav-avatu, sahanaav bhunaktu. Saha veeryam karavaa-vahai. Tejaswinaa-vadheetam-astu, ma vidvishavahai. Om shantih, shantih, shantih. (Taittiriya Upanishad II.1) Asato ma sad-gamaya; tamaso ma jyotir-gamaya; mrtyor-ma amrutam gamaya. Om.shantih, shantih, shantih. (Brihadaranyaka Upanishad 1.3.28)