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marriage? If she is to marry at the age of twenty, when should we start to worry? When she is two or three years old?
Questioner: When a girl becomes fourteen or fifteen years old, her parents would start thinking about it.
Dadashri No, even at that she still has five more years to go. Perhaps within those five years, the one doing the worrying will die or the one for whom he is worrying will die. Who can predict? How can one worry five years in advance?
And that even he starts to worry after he witnesses other people worrying about their daughters. So and so is very worried about marrying his daughter off, while I am doing nothing! Then in a perpetual state of worry, he becomes like a pumpkin. And when the time comes for his daughter to be wed, he doesn't have even five pennies to his name. Where can a worrying man get money?
You should start to worry about your daughter when people around you start to ask you, 'Have you made any arrangements for your daughter? Then you should know it is time for you to start thinking about it and make some effort from that time onwards. But here one begins to worry fifteen years to soon! He will even tell his wife 'Do you realise that our daughter is growing up and that we have to get her married?'
Wrong time to worry
If he worries about marrying his daughter seventeen years before her time, then why does he not worry about dying? To that he would say, No, do not remind me about
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dying.' So I asked him, 'what is wrong in reminding you about death? Are you not going to die at some point in time?' He replied, But if you remind me about dying, I will lose today's happiness and life will turn sour.' So then why are you contemplating your daughter's marriage? Will you not lose your zest for life when you do that? Your daughter has brought from her past life with her everything for her marriage. Parents are only instrumental in all this. This girl has come with all the requirements for her wedding, even the amount of money you will spend on her wedding.
You do not have to worry about your daughter. You are there to nurture her. She has even brought along the boy she will eventually marry. We do not have to ask anyone to give birth to a son for our daughter. 'We have a daughter, so would you please give birth to a son?' Is that what you tell people? So she has come prepared with all the goods. But the father still continues day and night with his fretting, She is twenty five years old and she has still not married.' Why are you complaining when there is a twenty-seven year old boy out there? You just don't know where to look for him that's all. Why don't you quietly retire to bed? Your daughter has even brought with her the timing of her marriage.
Do not create anything that is not in your control. Do you ever worry about the two or three little girls and boys you left behind in your past life? Why not? at the time of your death, you are extremely worried about what will happen to your little girl? when you took your new birth here, did you worry about your past life? No letters or any messages from past life? This is all beyond your control. Therefore do not interfere. Whatever happens is Vyavasthit, so let it be
| SR No. | 007563 |
| Book Title | Worries |
| Original Sutra Author | N/A |
| Author | Dada Bhagwan |
| Publisher | Dada Bhagwan Foundation |
| Publication Year | 2001 |
| Total Pages | 25 |
| Language | English |
| Classification | Book_English & Akram Vigyan |
| File Size | 175 KB |