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[16] Revenge of Enmity Is Unbearable
night. So when atikraman occurs while you are doing pratikraman, just stop it. You should not force it too much.
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Questioner: What I mean by 'force' is that the link of grudge (taanto) and abhorrence stops all pratikraman even before it comes into my hands. So the purusharth stops.
Dadashri: But there is a reason that the purusharth comes to a stop. There you have to put an end to it. Take a little break and then start the pratikraman again. But you have to take a break. Do you understand that? This is because atikraman has occurred for infinite past lives. One has done nothing but atikraman. Nothing else occurs besides atikraman. One either loves someone or hates someone; they are both considered atikraman. And pratikraman has to be done wherever atikraman is done. There is no path to moksha where there is no pratikraman. Pratikraman should be 'shoot-on-sight' pratikraman; only then will atikraman be erased.
Questioner: I have to do a lot of purusharth there. Dadashri: Purusharth is possible since you became a Purush (Self-realized).
Questioner: So what purusharth is needed to become free from this?
Dadashri: The purusharth is one of continuing to 'see' what the mind is doing, and what the chit is doing.
The Enemy Has a Change of Heart with Pratikraman
Questioner: No matter how intense an enmity there is towards someone; no matter how strong malice exists in jealousy towards another human being; will pratikraman erase all that?
Dadashri: This world has arisen due to atikraman. All the bad attributes have occurred due to atikraman, and they will be erased with pratikraman. There are only these two.
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Pratikraman
Questioner: Does a change occur in the heart of the other person?
Dadashri: He will have change in his heart and he will come looking for you at your home. Do you understand? Everything will occur. (286)
What does pratikraman mean? It means to 'see' your own mistakes. But if you see mistakes in others, then they will perpetuate. Therefore, do not look for mistakes in others. Only then will you be free of enmity (veyr).
Enmity Continues Enmity, Life after Life
Questioner: So where is the need for doing pratikraman when he is never going to meet me again?
Dadashri: Pratikraman itself means that you are doing pratikraman for that which has already occurred' and not for what is going to occur.' When you do pratikraman, you are free from the inner intent (bhaav) of violence or kashay. You are the one letting go of it; he may or may not.
Questioner: Suppose I don't do any pratikraman. So will I have to go someplace in order to settle that score?
Dadashri: No, it does not have to be settled by meeting him again. You are the one who is bound; you have no concern with him at all. We have nothing to do with the other person.
Questioner: But am I not supposed to settle the account?
Dadashri: It means that you yourself are bound again and that is why you have to do pratikraman. Everything heals with pratikraman, which is why you have been given the weapon of pratikraman!
All karmic debts are paid off with pratikraman and pratyakhyan. Otherwise, enmity increases with revenge and opposition. It increases when you oppose someone, does it not?