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[14] Release from Bondage of Inner Enemies
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get hurt.
Dadashri: That is called 'kashay.' When one comes under someone else's (the non-Self s) control, it is kashay. Then the anger-pride-deceit-greed take over. You know that it is wrong to speak negatively about someone in his absence, but you do it all the same. Sometimes you will become aware of it and sometimes it will pass, unnoticed. You will become aware of it sooner or later. This can only occur if you were the Knower of the mistake when it was occurring. The fact that you repent the event later means you were in fact aware as a Knower when the mistake was occurring.
Questioner: In my office, I have three to four secretaries. Despite multiple instructions on repeated occasions, they continue to make the same mistakes. This results in my getting angry and frustrated with them. What should I do?
Dadashri: You are now the pure Self, so how can You become angry? Anger comes to 'Chandulal' so You should tell him, 'You have met Dada now. What reason is there for you to become so angry?'
Questioner: But those secretaries do not improve at all. Unless I say something to them, they will not change.
Dadashri: You can tell 'Chandulal' that he can scold his secretary with equanimity. He should scold her in a dramatic manner like, 'If you continue to be inefficient, your job will be at risk.'
Questioner: If I say that, she would feel hurt and you have said that we should not hurt anyone.
And then having told her, immediately tell 'Chandubhai', "You made a mistake (arikraman) by speaking harsh words, so do pratikraman.' Then ask for forgiveness in your mind. But do speak with the secretary and then do the pratikraman. Do both together. You have to run your worldly life too, do you not?
Discharge Abhorrence after Gnan
Questioner: Do I incur a karmic liability when I fire an employee who does not do his work? Or is it vyavasthit (scientific circumstantial evidences)?
Dadashri: That is not a mistake. When there is no attachment-abhorrence (raag-dwesh), it is just a play of the pudgals (non-Self complexes). One gets trapped where there is attachment-abhorrence. Raag-dwesh no longer remains after one attains Self-realization. If they did, then one would be liable. But now it is all in the form of discharge; it is discharge abhorrence (dwesh). There is no serious liability there.
Any action done is with either attachment (raag) or abhorrence (dwesh). After Gnan, attachment and abhorrence do not occur. Where there is no attachment-abhorrence, there are only the non-Self complexes (pudgals) clashing with each other. The one who 'sees all that is the Self. If you become engrossed in it, then you will take a beating. When does one become engrossed in it? It is when there is a lot of entanglement (stickiness) with the discharge. But then You have to tell *Chandubhai' to do pratikraman so that it will wash off.
If you remain the Knower and the Seer of the anger that occurs, it will leave. The subatomic particles (parmanus) of anger will become cleansed and they will dissipate. This much is Your obligation
(258) Questioner: Is the pratikraman I do after becoming angry called 'purusharth' (spiritual effort) or parakram
Dadashri: She would not feel hurt if you speak to her in a dramatic (natakiya) manner. In doing so, the ego does not arise in your words. This results in her becoming aware in her mind, and she will make a decision to improve. You are not hurting her in doing so. You can only hurt her if your intention is to hurt, like, 'I am going to straighten her out.' Then she will