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[9] Pratikraman in Varying Situations
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daughter-in-law and the daughter-in-law commits suicide as a result. Will the daughter-in-law attain peace if the mother-in-law does pratikraman afterwards?
Dadashri: We have to continue doing pratikraman; we are not liable for anything else.
Questioner: What if the person is living?
Dadashri: After doing pratikramans, you have to tell him, 'I have no sense. Please forgive me.' You should say that and he will be pleased. The other person becomes happy when you show him that you have less sense. If you say this even after breaking his arm, he will not worry about his broken arm. He will be happy. This is because the breaking of his arm had already been decided (it was in his karma), but you became the nimit. And so it occurred through your nimit (you as the nimir). So that karma became settled. The account became settled through a credit and a debit. The Knower of the Kashays and Lack of Kashays
way. Why is that? Why does that occur? It is because even if *Chandulal' is doing the action. You are the Knower. You will even know what is going on within: You are the Knower of both these. You are the Knower of both the absence of kashay reaction (saiyam parinam) and presence of kashay reaction (asaiyam parinam). That is You (the Self). Do You experience that?
Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: Yes. Just keep seeing this circumstance, the drama unfolding. Unaffected Even While Giving the Sentence
of Hanging One judge asked me, "Sir, now that you have given me Gnan, should I or should I not impose a death penalty?' So I asked him, 'If you don't impose the death penalty then what will you do?' He replied, But I will become liable for demerit karma (paap).' I asked him, "Have I made you the "pure Self' or *Chandulal'?' He replied, 'You made me the pure Self.' So I told him, "Then you are not responsible for whatever Chandulal' does. And if you want the responsibility, then you are 'Chandulal.' If you want to share the liability, then 'we don't have any objection. But you should not become a partner in this.'
I then showed him a way to resolve this by saying, 'Oh, Dada Bhagwan, why do I have to deal with such an unpleasant task?' and do pratikraman for it. I taught him to do pratikraman in this manner and fulfill his work for the government according to the laws. Pratikraman Frees You from All Liabilities
Questioner: Would not belief and conviction that one becomes free of all liability after doing pratikraman give him a license towards indiscriminate and self-guided behavior (swachhand), regardless of the welfare of the other?
Questioner: Bad feelings, intents, arise but I immediately recognize that I made a mistake.
Dadashri: That is why I tell you that all wrong and bad bhaav is discharge. Do you understand that? And it does not charge or bind karma. For such intentions, one immediately knows, 'It should not be this way... it should not be so.' Otherwise, to become involved with the wrong intentions (asaiyam) is called 'giving in to kashays. But are you not able to remain separate from the bad intents (bad bhaav)?
Questioner: Yes, yes.
Dadashri: Now, bad bhaav is effective (it is an effect and its causes were previously created). Even if you try to stop them, you will not succeed, but if 'Chandulal' were scolding someone, from within you would know it should not be that