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is a sign of bad luck and that is why he came back emptyhanded. Now since this man has acquired incorrect knowledge, should we not get rid of it? We should explain to him that God resides in the donkey as well, so there is no such thing as bad luck and that his contempt towards the donkey, reaches the God within and as a consequence, he will incur a tremendous karmic liability. Caution him not to make the same mistake again. People cannot adjust because of incorrect knowledge.
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You should not voice your opinion first; first ask what the other person thinks. If the other person insists on his viewpoint, I let go of mine. I only consider one thing, that I hurt no one. You should take the other person's viewpoint into consideration and not try to force your opinion on them. I have taken everyone's opinion and only then have I become a Gnani. If I ever try to impose my viewpoint on anyone, I would become weak. No one should be hurt because of your opinion. Your revolutions may be at eighteen hundred per minute and the other person's maybe at eight hundred, so if you impose your opinion on the other person, his engine will breakdown and the gears will need to be repaired.
Questioner: What do you mean by revolutions?
Dadashri: It is the speed at which thoughts occur; everyone has different revolutions. If something happens, the mind will show you many things within just one minute, it shows you many different aspects at a time. All these powerful presidents have eight hundred revolutions, mine are at five thousand. Lord Mahavir's were a hundred thousand!
Why do people have differences of opinions? If your
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wife's revolutions are at a hundred and yours are at five hundred, there will be conflict if you do not know how to apply a counter-pulley. Many times even the engine breaks down. Do you understand what I mean by revolutions? When you talk to a laborer, your point will not reach him. His revolutions are at fifty, yours are at five hundred and someone else may be a thousand and another person may have twelve hundred. The revolutions are dependent upon an individual's development. You will only get your point across to the other person if you employ a counter-pulley and decrease your revolutions. I use a counter-pulley with everyone. It is not just a matter of getting rid of the ego; I also have to use a counter-pulley with everyone. That is why I never have any differences of opinions with anyone. I am able to understand the person I am dealing with and his limited revolutions, and therefore I use a counter-pulley. I also get along very well with children because I will set a counterpulley of forty revolutions with them and therefore they are able to grasp what I am saying, otherwise the machine will break down.
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Questioner: Should we speak only after coming down to the level of the other person?
Dadashri: Yes, you should only talk after you come down to their level. Even as I talk to you, my revolutions go all over the place. If you do not know how to use a counterpulley, what fault is it of the one with fewer revolutions? It is your own fault for not knowing how to use a counterpulley.
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Questioner: I cannot take adjustment because I am