Life without Conflict

SR No.: 007549
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2005
Total Pages: 97
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 13 KB

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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
opinions and conflicts?
Dadashri: Terrible ignorance! Man does not know how to live, he does not know how to be a father, nor does he know how to be a husband. He does not know the art of living. Despite having happiness, people do not know how to enjoy it.
Questioner: But utensils are bound to make a noise!
Dadashri: But how can you live with noisy utensils day in and day out? People continue to live this way because they do not have the understanding. If a person had awareness, he would not be able to sleep at night with a single conflict. These utensils (people) emit vibrations even if they are asleep, 'He's like this' and 'he's like that, the is awkward,' 'he's difficult,' he is unfit.' 'he should be thrown out.' The other non-living) utensils do not emit any vibrations. People put in their two-bit without understanding; they claim two utensils are bound to make a noise! Listen here you foolish people! Are you a utensil? Do we need to make a noise? No one has ever seen this Dada make noise with anyone. Not even in a dream. Why all the noise? The noise you make is at your own liability, not anyone else's. It is better for you to sit in a corner like an idiot and tell yourself, *It is fine if I get tea for breakfast, if not I'll drink it at the office.' What's wrong with doing that? Besides does tea not have its time also? This world never operates outside the laws of vyavasthit. When the time comes, you will get your tea, you will not have to make a noise for it. It will come whetheryou create vibrations or not. But in the latter situation, you will create an account with your wife and she will remind you one day that you were banging on the table for your tea!
Understand Prakruti and Be Cautious
Men forget events but women will remember them for the rest of their lives Men are innocent and easygoing, they have generous minds; they are forgiving by nature. But women will make a comment, 'That day, you said such and such words to me and it really wounded my heart.' Alas even after twenty years, your memory is so fresh? Many things will rot but not her memory! Whatever you give to a woman, she will store it in a very appropriate place, her heart; so do not tell her anything! You cannot afford to say anything hurtful and besides nothing is meant for hurting. You have to be very cautious.
That is why it is written in the scriptures, 'It is easy to play with a woman, but when she gets upset, you are doomed! So you cannot keep picking on her, you cannot complain, 'Why are the vegetables cold?' or 'The daal does not have enough salt.' Why must you nag so? It is acceptable if you complain once in a while, but for you it is an everyday affair. There is another saying, 'If the father-in-law keeps within his boundary, the daughter-in-law will show respect.'
You have to maintain your boundaries. If the vegetables are cold or the daal does not taste good, it is well within the laws of nature. If you find it unbearable, then you can tell her something like, 'These vegetables tasted very good the other day when they were hot. If you say it like this, then she will get the message.
The Uncertified Rider A man buys a mare for eighteen hundred rupees and tries to sit on her. First of all he does not know how to sit on a horse and on top of that he aggravates the horse a little.