Life without Conflict

SR No.: 007549
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2005
Total Pages: 97
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 13 KB

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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
your liberation is close by.
Mend When You Are Hurt By Others
I asked a Vania (business sect in Gujarat who are apt in human interactions) man if he had conflicts in his home. *Many times," he told me. "What is your solution for them? I asked. "First I close my front door and then we fight,' he replied, 'What is the reason for closing the door?' I inquired. He went on, 'If people get into the house, they will prolong the conflict. If we fight amongst ourselves, things will calm down soon.' This man's intellect was good. I liked that. If people have even this much of intelligence, we have to accept it. Otherwise a dunce will open his door and invite people in to see. The foolish man! Doing that is called a taipho (deliberately involving others in a personal conflict by complaining profusely. This is a devious ploy people use to get what they want).
When you get into conflict with people, no one but yourself will be held responsible. In such situation you will have to extricate yourself. If you are truly a wise man, then just continue mending, even if the other person keeps breaking. This will free you. The very nature of people is to exacerbate conflicts. If you have attained the Self and if people do you wrong, just make it right; do not rebel against them or their actions. People do things that make no sense. They will put the bucket up side down and leave the tap running all night long. They only ruin things for themselves; they think they are ruining things for the other person, but this can never be. No one is capable of ruining anything for anyone else. No such person has been born.
It is impossible to assess the prakrutis of Indian people.
God himself becomes baffled! The prakruti of people in other countries is straightforward, for example, if a man vows to remain faithful to his wife, then he will do so for the rest of his life. But here, you can observe a person's prakruti the whole day long and still not be able to assess it. Their karmas and prakruti are very complex. Their unfolding karmas drive them to do things that put them at a disadvantage and they hurt themselves. Otherwise are these people likely to do anything that would cause them hurt? Not these people, they are extremely shrewd. They would be cautious even when they are dying, they would put their soul aside and then die! Resolve Conflicts by Turning Your Words Around
Dadashri: Do you have conflicts when you are having your meals?
Questioner: Conflicts are inevitable, Dada.
Dadashri: Why? Did you make a contract to do that when you got married?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: At the time of your wedding, you agreed to be aware and maintain awareness when times called for it. In your home, you should not use words like, 'mine' and yours'. Your speech should not create a separation; do you not belong to a family that never divides?
I have never had any differences of opinions with Hiraba; never has there been speech between us using words such as mine' or 'yours.' But one day, we did have a little difference of opinion. Hiraba's brother's eldest daughter was getting married, so she asked me what we should give her as a wedding gift. I told her, "Give whatever you want but