Life without Conflict

SR No.: 007549
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2005
Total Pages: 97
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 13 KB

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simmer down, and then analyze the situation by thinking about it, you will experience inner clarifications and understanding. God will leave your home as soon as there is a quarrel, will he not?
Questioner: Yes he would
you a plate of food upstairs anymore; you will have to come down and get it yourself. You are now well and able. You wander around and gossip with people, you smoke cigarettes and when it is time for you to eat you ask me to bring your plate up to you. I am not going to do that.' That is when you must say to her calmly, 'Please fix the plate and I will come down and get it myself. Even before she has a chance to say anything, just tell her that you are sorry and that you are coming. If you do this, you will sleep peacefully otherwise your whole night will be ruined. Both of you will pout, you will sleep separately and not sleep well. And in the morning she will still be sulking when she serves breakfast. You will notice it right away. This life is full of conflicts and quarrels. The Hindus spend their whole life in conflicts and quarrels.
A Home Without Conflict Is A Temple God does not reside in a home where there are conflicts. Therefore tell God, 'Sir, stay in the temple, do not come to our home. We will build temples for you but do not come to our home.' I assure you that God resides in a home where there is no conflict. Conflicts can be destroyed through understanding and intellect. Even through your prakruti, without Self-realization, you can have the understanding of how to avoid conflicts caused by difference in opinions. This is done through the medium of the right intellect. True understanding exists when there remain no differences with anyone. Differences occur because communication is inadequate and ineffective. Otherwise there would be no differences in opinions. These differences of opinions are the cause of conflict; it is a weakness.
When any conflict occurs, if you take time and calm down, and let you chit (inner organ of knowledge and vision)
Dadashri: God will not leave some people's homes but when quarrel arises, He will say, 'Let us go from here, we will not be comfortable here.' And so God leaves for the derasars (Jain temples) and the temples. People quarrel and steal from temples also and so God says, 'Let us leave from here too.' Even God has become tired of all this.
You should have a conflict-free life at home. You should at least know how to attain that. If you do not know anything else, at least explain to your family in this way: 'God will leave if there is conflicts and quarrels in our home. Therefore let us decide that we do not want any conflicts.' You should make a decision that you do not want to quarrel. If quarrels occur in spite of this decision, then realize that it is beyond your control. If he starts to quarrel, just pull the blanket over your head and go to sleep. After a while he too will go to sleep. But what happens if you start to answer back?
The Curse Of Dishonest Money In Bombay, I asked the lady of a very reputable family, "You do not have quarrels in your home, do you?' She replied, We have quarrels for breakfast every morning. I said, 'So you must be saving money on food!' She replied, 'No, we still have to eat breakfast'. So they have breakfast and they quarrel also. What kind of creatures are these people of today?
Questioner: Does the quarreling have anything to do