Harmony in Marriage

SR No.: 007548
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2001
Total Pages: 69
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 9 KB

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Chapter 25 IDEAL INTERACTIONS IN MARRIED LIFE Dadashri: What is the method to improve life? Questioner: To go on the right path.
Dadashri: For how long should you try to improve life, how many years, how many days, how many hours? How will it improve?
Questioner: I don't know.
Dadashri: Aha! That is why it does not improve. Really only two days need to be improved. First improve your working day and second, improve your holiday. Only two days need to be improved from the morning to night. If you change these two around, all others will change. If you make changes and arrange them in a certain way, then the rest will follow in the same manner. You don't have to make changes over a long period of time. Only these two days need to be organized. When these two days are organized, all the rest will automatically be included.
Questioner: How do you make these arrangements?
Dadashri: When you wake up in the morning, finish whatever prayers you want to do. You should make it a custom to wake up early in the morning. Aim to arise by five in the morning. For half an hour you should devote your time to meditate on higher things. If you have a religion that you follow, then perform your devotional duties for the next half hour. This would then carry on everyday. Then get up and brush your teeth, etc. Have a systematic approach even with brushing. You have to get your own toothbrush, do everything yourself. You should not ask anyone for anything. If you are sick that is
a different matter. After tea and breakfast, you may suggest to your wife that since there was not enough sugar in the tea, then perhaps tomorrow she can add a little more. Just make her aware of it, but don't start quarrelling. After breakfast, go to work and fulfil your duties there.
Leave your home without any quarrels and at work whatever conflicts you may have with your boss, settle them quickly on the way home. Leave your problems of work at work. Enter your home with a quiet mind. Do not have any disputes in the home. If you fight with your boss, what fault is it of your poor wife? Do you have disagreements with your boss or not?
Questioner: I do.
Dadashri: Then what fault is it of your wife? When you come home after fighting with your boss, then she'll know that you are not in a good mood. Does that happen?
Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: So if you organize one working day in this manner, and one holiday, there are only two different kinds of days. There is not a third kind of a day is there? So organize these two days, and then things will move along.
Questioner: Now what should be done on holidays?
Dadashri: On your day off, you should decide to take your family for an outing. Since they do not go out much. Have a nice meal at home, make good food and then take them out. Limit your expense when you go out. If sometimes you have to spend extra money, then you can budget it out but limit your expense. Decide all this with the approval of your wife. Let your wife make the decisions.