Harmony in Marriage

SR No.: 007548
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2001
Total Pages: 69
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 9 KB

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Harmony in Marriage
to do that, than to create discord. I turned the situation around quickly and completely. I told her, 'I did not mean to say that!' I am trying to say something else. There is a little misunderstanding on your part. I am not saying that'. So she asked 'Then what are you saying?' So I replied 'Give her the small silverware and in addition give her five hundred rupees in cash. She could use that money!' In turn she replied, 'you are too naive, how can you give so much?" I realised I had won over the situation. So then I told her 'you can give whatever you want to. All four of your nieces are like our daughters' at that point she became content! 'You are truly divine' she said.
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You see I fixed the damage. I knew that if I had said five hundred rupees, she was not likely to give that much. I passed the responsibility to her. I knew her nature. If I gave her five hundred rupees, then she would only have given three hundred. Therefore, tell me why should I have a problem in giving her the authority? (75)
Chapter 4
NAGGING AT MEAL-TIMES
Why do you interfere in household matters? Don't people make mistakes? Is it the people who work that make mistakes, or the ones who do not do anything?
Questioner: The ones who work.
Dadashri: So do not point out any mistakes in her cooking. If the kadhee (soup dish made from yoghurt) is too salty, you don't have to comment on it. What you do not like just put aside and eat the rest. It is a man's habit to point out his wife's mistakes and then tell her off. He has developed that habit. But this lady is no angel either. It has become like
Harmony in Marriage
America versus Russia. There is a cold war going on within the family. That is why I make you understand how to live like a family. These conflicts are going on in every household.
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If the food is not to your liking, can you refrain from making a comment. If there is too much salt in your soup can you refrain from saying anything? Do you think that they will not find out without your comments, or must you say something? If you have guests, then you wouldn't even let the guests eat it. Now why would you do such a thing? When she herself tastes it, she will find out without you blowing your horn.
Questioner: But if the khadee is salty, then you have to say it is salty.
Dadashri: Then your life too will become salty. You are insulting her by telling her it is too salty. That is not called being a family. (83) Questioner: You can say it if they are your own people, you cannot say it to others, can you?
Dadashri: So you can abuse your own?
Questioner: If you tell them, then they would do a better job next time.
Dadashri: Whether she does a good job or not, such talks are not needed. Why do these things happen? It is neither under the control of the maker nor is it under the control of the person who says anything. Under whose control is all this? I know the cause behind all that. (85)
Have you become at least a little wiser? You will be, won't you? You have to become absolutely wise. The wife should say 'I want a husband like you in every life'. A lady