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But do not go home and tell your father that he is not your father. In the worldly sense he is still your father. (P.370)
Dadashri: You have no idea about what is happening with the children of your past life. And this is what happens to you with your children of this life. When will you wake up? Instead start thinking about your liberation or else you will end up being born into a lower life form. If in this human life you allow yourself to suffer because of external circumstances or if you take your life, you will reincarnate into the animal kingdom, or even hell. Does the prospect of a lower life form appeal to you? (P. 363)
All these relatives are temporary adjustments. As long as you adjust to them, everything will be fine. Your intentions should be to preserve the relationship, even though others try to destroy it. Try to keep things as stable as you can, but when you feel that your efforts are in vain, then you can let go. As long as possible, try to keep things together. (P.371)
In all your previous lives you have suffered terribly. You forget the suffering from your previous lives and begin to suffer again in this one. You abandoned your children in your previous life and in this life you bring forth new ones. (P.364)
In your worldly interactions, you should conduct yourself as though you are an actor in a play. Internally you should remain detached from the situation. Do everything that you have to do, but without any emotional involvement. A mother who hugs her child dearly may do so to the point of smothering and naturally the child becomes irritated. It is the ignorant that display such possessive behavior. Whereas the Gnani Purush remains detached from all worldly interactions and so everyone remains happy with him.
(14) RELATIONSHIPS: ARE THEY RELATIVE OR
REAL?
All these relationships are temporary. You must conduct your interactions carefully. These are all relative relationships and they will remain as relative as you keep them. The definition of a worldly life is that it will give back exactly whatever you put into it.
From the Gnani's perspective, it is a worldly matter when a girl gets married and it is also a worldly matter when she becomes a widow. It is not real. Both the situations are relative and no one has the ability to change them. People agonize over the death of their young son-in-law. They become so distraught that they have to seek medical help. All such emotions and reactions are due to attachment and abhorrence. It is all because people have not understood worldly life as worldly life and
You may believe that because he is your son, he will be loyal to you, but just because he is your son does not mean that he will not go against you. The Soul never becomes a father or a son. These relationships are merely accounts of give and take