Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

SR No.: 007541
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2005
Total Pages: 63
Language: English
Classification: Book_English, Akram Vigyan, K000, & K010
File Size: 10 KB

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Celibacy
Celibacy
BRAHMACHARYA
Celibacy Attained With Understanding
PART TWO
Section: One
The Keys of Brahmacharya For Married People
[1] Fearlessness In Sex, Not Sex, Is Poison
This science of brahmacharya will liberate anyone, even married people. But you have to follow the agna of the Gnani Purush. Somebody with a false pride may say, 'I want to marry another one'. To this I would say that you have to be capable of it. People in the past had multiple wives. Emperor Bharat had thirteen hundred queens and he still attained total liberation. Would he have attained moksha if queens were the source of obstruction to his liberation? Then what is the obstruction to liberation? It is ignorance of the Self.
Sex is not poison, but fearlessness in sex is poison. Therefore, do not be concerned. All the scriptures have said it aloud that sex is poison. How is it poison? Can sex ever be poisonous? It is fearlessness in sex that is poison. If sex was poison then, for all you householders and married people, I would have had to come and push you out to the Jain monasteries where you would be forced to avoid sexuality of all kinds. But do I need to drive anyone?
The Lord has separated all living beings into two divisions; those who are in this worldly life and those who are liberated. Those who are liberated are called the siddha and the rest are sansari, involved in mundane worldly life. Therefore, if you are an ascetic, a renunciator, you are still a sansari just as much as the married householder. So, do not worry. Worldly married life is not an obstruction to liberation, sexual interaction is not an obstruction to liberation. It is ignorance of the Self that is the obstruction. That is why I have written; that sex is not poison, fearlessness in sex is poison.
If sex were indeed poison, then Lord Mahavir would never have become fully enlightened tirthankara. He too had a daughter. Therefore, fearlessness in sex is poison. If you feel, Nothing will hurt me in sex', then that is poison.
I have used the word fear so that one would have fear in sex. Involvement is sexuality should be the last resort. So, what I am saying is have fear in sex. Even the Lord himself was fearful in sex, as were all the mighty Gnanis. Who then are you not to be fearful of sex? If there is a lot of delicious food, you can enjoy it but have fear and moderation in enjoying it because you will suffer if you eat too much. Therefore, have some fear.
Questioner : After becoming the pure Soul, shuddhatma, should I have sexual interactions with my wife and if so, with what intention? How can I deal with equanimity here?
Dadashri : If you have a wife, then you both have to reach an acceptable solution for both in sexual matters. Your sexual dealing should be such that it is acceptable by both of you. Stop any interaction, which is acceptable to one and not to other. You should not hurt your wife in any manner.
I am telling you that this medicine of sex is a sweet