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because I add water to it on the table?" There is nothing to it. But they would not let us eat kadhi this way; don't they add water to the kadhi when it is on the stove?
It is all in the mind. Just because people believe something should be done in a certain way, they think it becomes ruined if anything is done contrary to the way they do it. Nothing is ever ruined. Everything is made of the same five elements- air, water, fire, earth and space. So nothing is going to be ruined.
Constant Worldly Awareness Led To Akram Vignan
Questioner: But Dada you had so much awareness. You diluted the kadhi subtly because you did not want to tell Hiraba it was salty because it would hurt her feelings.
Dadashri: Yes that is right. And many times I had remained silent when there was no sugar in the tea. People would caution me and tell me that if I did not say anything, things would get worse. I would tell them, 'Just wait and see.' The next day Hiraba would ask me. Why didn't you tell me there was no sugar in the tea yesterday?' I would tell her, "There was no need to tell you because you would find out when you drank the tea yourself. Now I would have to tell you if you did not drink tea, but since you do, is it necessary for me to tell you?'
Questioner: But that calls for tremendous awareness every passing moment.
Dadashri: Every moment. The awareness was there twenty-four hours. It was after such worldly awareness, this Gnan commenced; it did not just happen to occur on its own.
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questions about them, I visualize, have darshan of the place and the situation as it was. Darshan means I can actually see everything the way it occurred.
Cautious Before Difference Arises
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If you do not have any conflict-laden intention within you towards anyone, then neither will anyone have the same toward you. If you do not get angry and agitated, the other person will remain calm. You should become like a brick wall so nothing will affect you. We have been married for fifty years and yet we have never had any conflicts. Even when Hiraba spills ghee (clarified butter), I merely watch her do it. Gnan is present at that moment. The Gnan says that she is not the one doing the spilling. She would not spill even if I ask her to. Would anyone deliberately spill ghee? No. Never the less when the ghee does spill, it is something to be observed, so observe it. For me Gnan is readily at hand before any conflict occurs. Solutions Through Knowing The Nature Of The Other Person
I have never had any conflicts, even at home. We Patidar Patels are set in our ways. When we pour ghee over our food, we just tip the container 90 degrees, and we don't tip it slowly, a few degrees at a time, like other people do. Hiraba, she would tip it carefully, a few degrees at a time. I did not like that; it was bad for my reputation. But I also understood her prakruti, her overall nature, and so I knew that there would be no problem if I were to spill the ghee, because she would scoop it up. She used to tell me that I was very naïve and generous and that I give everything away to people. She was right. That is why I had given her the keys to the cupboard because I would give away things without thinking to anyone who would