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Aptavani-9
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Aptavani-9
understand that everyone is irritated, but what can he do? The path that Dada has shown you is straight; it is ekavtari i.e. you can achieve liberation within one more lifetime. So remain in saiyam (without kashayas: anger-pride-deceit and greed) and settle your files with equanimity. Whether she is your daughter, your wife or anyone else, deal with her, with equanimity. No one is anyone's daughter or wife, in this world. Everything is dependant upon the fruition of one's own karma. However, we cannot make this statement to those who do not have Gnan. If you tell them this, they will fight with you.
Now when does your moksha become ruined? When you become asaiyami (with kashayas: anger-pride-deceit-greed). Our Gnan is not such that it will cause asaiyam. Gnan is constant saiyam. Externally induced troubles lupadhi) arise the moment suspicion arises.
Therefore, to have suspicion or to become laden with suspicion (shankashil) is a grave liability. I have seen a father of nine girls be free of suspicions, even in the worst of Kaliyug. And all the girls got married. How long would he have lived, had he lived in suspicion? So never become suspicious because you will be the greatest loser.
Questioner: What kind of a loss does one incur with suspicion? Please clarify this.
Dadashri: It is nothing but misery. Direct living misery! Is that a minor loss? If one goes deeper and becomes even more suspicious, it will cause him pain that is comparable to death.
Questioner: It will hurt like being struck with a spear.
Dadashri: A spear is better. There is greater pain and misery in suspicion. A spear just jabs but suspicion will kill a person. Do not be suspicious otherwise it will lead to more anguish and turmoil
Solution for suspicions No man can be free from suspicion. When my mother was alive, there were moments when I would get off the train at Baroda station, I would have thoughts like, 'What if mother died suddenly today? How am I even going to enter the home?' I used to have such suspicions. All kinds of suspicions can arise in a man. But I studied all this from all the angles and concluded that it all mounted to nothing. This world is not such that one should have any suspicions.
Questioner: Even I become suspicious when I get a phone call from India, 'What if something happened to mother?'
Dadashri: But suspicion does not help at all. It causes misery. One never knows when an elderly person may die. Are you able to save them? If suspicion is going to arise, keep doing a vidhi (special inner spiritual adjustment) to the pure Soul of that person, as follows: 'Dear pure Soul within the name of the person concerned), which is separate from his dravya (discharge) karma, bhaav (charge) karma and nokarma (neutral), please grant peace to him.'Do this vidhi before suspicion arises. If suspicion arises then change it around with this vidhi.
Vyavasthit eliminates suspicion
The world is miserable from suspicions. Suspicions can take a human being to a lower life form. Nothing is to be gained from suspicions. According to the law of vyavasthit, no one can destroy anything so why are you meddling needlessly by becoming suspicious
Vyavasthit means whatever 'is', is and whatever 'is not', is not. Whatever 'is', is not going to become 'is not' and what 'is not', is not going to become 'is'. Your meddling is not going to change anything. Therefore, become suspicious-less. After attaining this Gnan, you have become suspicious-free in matters of the Soul; the awareness that you have attained is verily the Soul and everything else is a discharge of past karmas.