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pompous about all this?' I understood that he got satisfaction by being self-righteous; at least he felt at peace but when he started to criticize others, I had to tell him, 'Do not criticize.' It is wrong to criticize other people's daughters when you have daughters of your own. People who do not have daughters of their own would not criticize this way but the ones with daughters criticize a lot. Being a father yourself, are you not ashamed of criticizing in this way? If you entertain such suspicion, where will it end?
Girls today are so naive that they think their fathers will never read their personal diaries. They keep their personal letters in their schoolbooks. The fathers are naïve too; they trust their daughters. But I know everything and realize that the girl is mature and grown up. I would advice him to get his daughter married, what else can I say?
Beware! Parents of daughters
One of my close relatives had four daughters. He was very aware in worldly matters. He tells me, 'These girls are grown up and are going to college but I cannot trust them. 'I told him, "Then go to the college with them and follow them till they come home. You can do that for one day but what will you do the following day? Send your wife?" He had no understanding of where he should place his trust and where not. You simply have to tell your daughter, 'Dear daughter. Ours is a noble family and well respected in the community. Please take this into consideration as you interact with the world. You have to caution her this way and then whatever happens is correct. Do not have suspicions. How many parents will be suspicious? Those who have worldly awareness due to excessive intellect will keep having suspicions. The dumb ones will not.
Any suspicion that arises should be removed the moment it arises. One becomes suspicious even when his daughter goes out to play. Would he be happy once suspicion arises?
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Questioner: No, then there is no point in having any suspicion about her.
Dadashri: Yes, that is it. Whatever the reason, one should not let suspicion arise. You should be vigilant and aware but do not become suspicious. The moment you allow suspicion to occur, realize that 'death' has come.
Questioner: But suspicion arises on its own does it not?
Dadashri: Yes, but it is a tremendously dangerous ignorance. It causes a lot of pain. When your daughter goes out and someone tells you that she has gone to meet her boyfriend, it will cause you to have suspicion on your daughter. How will you feel?
Questioner: That is it, after that the restlessness continues
within.
Dadashri: Will your restlessness solve the problem on the outside? Is it going to stop her from going out with her boyfriend? Nothing is going to change and that suspicion will kill you. Therefore, the moment suspicion arises, instantly remember that Dada has said 'no' to it and that you are to stop it. Nevertheless, you should take the necessary precautions.
Do others not have daughters too? And do their daughters not go to college also? It is not like the old days when girls were kept at home, is it? So do you not have to act according to the current times? If other girls talk to their boy friends, then can your daughters not do the same with their boy friends?
It is no fun to see these parents when they become suspicious about their daughters because they either have seen or heard something about their daughters. When they come to me asking for help, I tell them to get rid of their suspicions. You are suspicious because you saw something, what if you had not seen it? Suspicion arose only from what you saw, so why don't