Aptavani 01

SR No.: 007534
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2007
Total Pages: 165
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 20 KB

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Love and Infatuation Saint Kabir says: 'Waxing one moment and waning another, that is not love, True Love dwells in the heart, never diminishing, never
changing What is true love? It is that love which never increases or decreases. It is only true love if it remains constant and the same. 'Pure love resides in the One in whom the Lord has manifest.
Love that increases and decreases is not love; it is attachment or infatuation.
A Gnani's love is pure love, nowhere else can such a love be experienced. The love you see in the world, the love between husband, wife, father and mother, between father and child, mother and child, employer-employee, is love filled with expectations. When does one realize this? It is when that love is fractured. A person cannot realize the true nature of their love as long as there is sweetness in the relationship. but that realization comes when bitterness arises. Even the most loving of relationships between a father and a son can become ruined forever, if the son who has always obeyed his father, one day in the heat of the moment tells the father that he has no sense. The father will disown the son. If it were true love between them, then it would remain the same no matter what happens between the two. Apart from such a love (one without any expectations), how can you call anything else true love? Love with expectations is called aasakti (attachment/infatuation); it is comparable to the relationship between a businessman and his client. It is like a business agreement. The love found in this world is really aasakti. True love is where you don't feel like leaving that person. You like every thing they say. There are no actions or reactions in true love. The Lord is pure love; pure
love will flow constantly without changes. It does not increase nor does it decrease. It is the nature of aasakti to increase and then decrease.
People even insist on sleeping where they sleep. They become attached to what they sleep on. Some insist on sleeping on a sleeping mat while others insist on sleeping on a mattress.
Those who sleep on a mattress cannot sleep on a mat and those who sleep on a mat cannot fall asleep on a mattress. Any form of insistence is poison and non-insistence is nectar. Unless one becomes free from all insistence, one cannot get the love of the world. Pure love manifests through non-insistence and pure love itself is God.
Without having understood true love, all other love is temporary. Today whatever knowledge there is of love, is all related to the prakruti (the relative self). Of what use is love that arises because of such qualities?
All doors can be opened with pure love. What can you not attain through the love for the Guru?
The most attractive people will appear ugly because of their ego. People become beautiful when they exude the egoless love of the pure Self within (i.e. when they become prematma); then even an ugly person will appear beautiful. It is only when pure love manifests that people begin to look appealing. What do the people of this world seek? Liberated love, wherein there is no element of selfishness or expectations.
In the worldly life, conflict is the cause of attraction (aasakti); conflict is the vitamin that nurtures attraction. In the absence of conflicts, one can become vitarag.
The Lord says that all internal suffering stemming from abhorrence is helpful. Intemal feelings stemming from attachment, attraction, and worldly love will never let one be free. The