Adjust Everywhere

SR No.: 007532
Original Sutra Author: N/A
Author: Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation
Publication Year: 2001
Total Pages: 21
Language: English
Classification: Book_English & Akram Vigyan
File Size: 175 KB

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Adjust Everywhere
to adjust. There is no need to insist on your viewpoint in this relative world. You should be able to adjust even with a thief.
TO IMPROVE HER OR TO ADJUST TO HER
In every situation if you adjust to the other person, how beautiful life will be. After all, what do we take with us when we die? "I will set her straight," he says. If you attempt to make her straight, you yourself will become crooked. Do not try to improve your wife. Just accept her as she is. It would be a different matter if you had a permanent relationship with her life after life. Who knows where she will be in her next life? You will both die at different times. Your karma is different. If you manage to improve her in this life, she will be someone else's wife in her next life.
Therefore, do not try to improve her. She too, should not attempt to improve you. Whatever she is, she is as good as gold. You cannot improve another's prakriti (inherent characteristics) ever, however hard you try. A dog's tail remains crooked, no matter how hard you try to straighten it. So be careful and let her be whatever she is. Adjust everywhere.
WIFE IS A COUNTERWEIGHT
Questioner: I really try to adjust with my wife, but I am not able to do so.
Dadashri Everything is according to previous accounts. It is simply a matter of nuts and bolts. Both have to match to fit each other. You cannot use a straight nut to fit a bolt with angled threads. You may think, 'why are women like this?' Women are your counterweight. They are helpful to you. Her obstinacy is proportional to your own fault. I see
Adjust Everywhere
this and therefore I say that everything is vyavasthit (scientific circumstantial evidence).
Questioner: It seems as if everyone has come to straighten me out.
Dadashri: You must be straightened out, otherwise how will your world function? You will not be a good father if you do not improve. Women are such that they will not change, so you will have to change. Their inherent nature prevents them from adjusting. They are not likely to change.
What is a wife?
Questioner: You tell us, Dada.
Dadashri: 'Wife is the counterweight of man'. If that counterweight is not there, then man would fall.
Questioner: I do not understand. Please explain.
Dadashri: Counterweights are installed in engines. The engine will break down without these counterweights. In the same way, women are the counterweight of men. Without a wife to stabilize a husband, the man will fall. He will run around everywhere, without any purpose. He comes home because of the woman. Otherwise, would he?
Questioner: No, he would not..
Dadashri : She is his counterweight.
ALL CONFLICTS ULTIMATELY COME TO AN END
Questioner: We forget the morning's conflict by the afternoon, but in the evening, something new crops up.