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their very birth onwards. Even in the womb, they kick their mothers with their elbows. If the mother happens to eat something spicy, he hurts his mother from the inside with his limbs. Women are not like born obstinate like men.
You have to see your own obstinacy
People talk about obstinacy in other people as if they have got rid of their own obstinacy. One should not say, 'He is obstinate'.
Questioner: Dada, is my obstinacy if I say, 'he is very obstinate'?
Dadashri: That is the greatest obstinacy.
Questioner: So does one have to one's own obstinacy only?
Dadashri: Then whose? If you point out obstinacy in someone, he will become an adversial immediately.
Questioner: Many times, we do not even recognize our obstinacy, in fact, many times our obstinacy appears as straight forwardness to us.
Dadashri: You would not recognize it. You have to enter deepwithin your self to see it. To see obstinacy one has to adopt an impartial attitude.
When someone says, 'why are you being obstinate?' you respond by saying, “Just look at him! He is a fool. Am I being obstinate or he is being obstinate?' The man is telling you to investigate, so then you should. We do not look at our own obstinacy and we go looking for obstinacy in others. Why do people not accuse me of being obstinate? If they were to see obstinacy in me, they would not refrain from telling me so. The world will tell you what it sees.
When obstinacy leaves...
Some men tell their wives, 'If you make the tea, I will not drink it.' Oh! ho ho! Then whose tea will you drink? Excercising his role as a husband dhani, he intimidates his wife. What does he tell her? 'You ruined the tea, so I will not drink tea again if you prepare it.' He intimidates the poor woman.