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REALIZE WHAT YOU ARE:
Meditation makes you so aware of yourself that you feel your own words; you hear the sound, the tone, the gesture, the impact. If you hear that your tone is harsh, ask yourself: "If someone spoke to me that way, would I like it?” That person is a human being. You are creating pain for someone. Do you have some human feeling for the other person?
With this approach our relations become sweet. Many friends will come to you because they will see that your eyes, words, feelings and actions are very peaceful. They will see that when someone tries to hurt you, you don't take notice. You say, “I don't want your abuse," and you leave it behind.
This wayyour whole life changes. You become true to yourself, you have no pretension. If you don't like something, you have the right to say, “No, I don't like this." But you say it politely and gently, not in a curt way. There is no need to be a hypocrite; simply say, “Thank you, but for me it does not build harmony or peace.” Your words are not harsh because they are not in reaction.
Deepening Meditation: Eliminating Negative Traits
Start the day with the mantram, asking, “Who am I?” In the evening you look again and see everything that happened in your day. If all was harmonious, be glad and feel your peace. If any upsetting incident arose, don't judge yourself. See it clearly and rectify it in your meditation. You are building a new life.
The second mantram we use this week along with koham is nahum. Na means "not" and hum means "I"