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THE WAY OF LIFE
From the Audience: Now-a-days, such incidents are on the increase. Even excessive intimacy has become a fashion..
Maharajashri : Leave the affairs of other people. At least, will you who have gathered here take this vow, "We shall discard excessive intimacies. We shall not allow any intimacy to grow beyond limits". In case excessive intimacy arises, slowly cut it down. If it is necessary to retain familiarity with somebody retain it but do not allow it to become deep. In case, such a deep intimacy brings you some mean materialistic benefit, discard your desire for that mean benefit.
A certain girl became very intimate with a wealthy man. They were neighbours. The wealthy man used to take the girl with him to movies and hotels and he also used to buy her fine garments. The girl thought that the rich man was a god in goodness. The girl's mother was very poor. The rich man used to send food grain and money to the girl's house. The girl's mother also was caught in the snares of the rich man. Can you guess what the result of all this was? The rich man ruined the girl's life and left her in the lurch. When he had achieved his objective, he broke off all connections with that family.
AVARICE IS THE MAIN CAUSE FOR EXCESSIVE INTIMACY
The greed for gain is the main cause for excessive intimacies. Gain is of many kinds. If any jiva is entangled in the greed for any gain, he develops excessive intimacy with someone. The great author of the grantha has mentioned only one loss that excessive intimacy causes. He says that excessive intimacy causes indifference and disrespect. But his statement should be taken as a direction or a suggestion. Excessive intimacy causes not one but several losses and calamities. Therefore I exhort you to have limited relations with others. The familiarity that is within the limits of morality surely brings felicity. But if it transgresses the boundaries of morality, it steeps us in the quandaries of perplexity.
If you want to develop deep intimacy, you may develop such an intimacy only with the Paramatma. Develop not only
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